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May 5, 2008, 1:13 pm PDT
To biggame32---
Quote From: biggame32 i have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a at a year or more then suddenly last night she told me that she did'nt love me anymore liked she used to,she said she didn't have anytime for me anymore because she was too busy with other things like her job,school,friends and her mother and she has another 4 years of college and she doesn't think i will wait on but her i told i would no matter what and there a slight age diifference between us too her being 19 and being 34 but that sholudn't matter if you love another,she at first said the age difference didn't bother here and i also told her about into a week of us dating i told i wold stop dating if see was uncomfortable with this and she said was alright with it and a year and a half she tells me she doesn't love me anymore but i stillhave feelings for here and i still love what should i do can anyone help please If you are 34 and she is 19, that is MORE then a ‘slight’ age difference. You have had life experience that she simply hasn’t had yet, and although you have love for her, you’ve got to let go. Let her grow into the wonderful, educated young woman that she is meant to be. She is doing her best to be honest with you; it can’t be easy to tell a person that you don’t have love for them any longer. But she is doing the right thing by telling you that. She wants to fully enjoy these years while she can, because they don’t last forever.
She is telling you that she has social interests that take up her time- her friends, a job, her family; you have to make peace with this information and let go. Don’t become an obsessive stalker ex-boyfriend; have more dignity then that. You will move forward and love again, give yourself some time to heal. I know that it hurts to hear that she doesn’t love you anymore, but at the same time, you should feel glad that she was woman enough to communicate that to you- there are people who are too immature at that age to break up in a respectable way so instead they sleep around and get caught on purpose. This young woman isn’t like that, she is communicating with you in a dignified way, and you have to respect what she has to say, respect yourself, and move forward. I wish you the best.
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