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First of all, I've been married for 1 and a half year. Me and my husband both have kids he has 6 and I have 2. Only one of his kids live with us and he is 6years old. My daugher is six and my son nine. It seems as if the kids are dividing us. He lets his son get away with lots of things, he don't discipline him at all. When you mention it to him he says that he go do things the way he do. But his son is doing the same thing over and over again. For example, he starts spats with the kids, he always hits my older son and his father never says anything. His son and my son always argue. It's like a divided home bc he feels that i defend my child, ( i do sometimes bc my husband isnt fair with my children) He cater to his son, damn anybody else's feeling around him ( including mines). Don't get me wrong I love my husband and stepson, but it seems as if my husband takes his son side even if he is wrong. I tell him constantly that his child isn't the only child in the house, but his decisions on punnishment for my kid is harsh especially my son. But stepson can be bad at school and still get rewards, that isn't fair. My son has all A's in school and he is treated like his behavior is bad and school while stepson is treated like he has all A's. Just yesterday, my stepson hit my son and he does this often, he gets away with it. But anyways, my  son finally got fed up and hit him in the eye . I feel that they shouldn't fight but if you hvae someone constantly hitting you just bc he knows that he is going to get away with it, sometimes you have to take matters in you own hands. My husband didn't like that so he put my son in a head lock and hit him. I don't think that was right bc his son constantly starts stuff and when my son tells him its like he put a brick wall up bc he does nothing. What should I do bc my son has had so many things happen to him by stepson and his dad will not listen to my son at all. It's not fair. My son said he wish that it could be just me, him and his sister again,  and I agreed in my mind. My stepson don't have way listen to him so you know that I feel disrespected. He acts like a baby alot ,he has his dad wrapped around his little finger. I always tell his dad that every bad thing deserve consequences, instead he rewards for bad things as it may seems. I want to walk away from this relationship for other reasons more serious than this. My stepson is a piece of work. Every where that i take him is is rotten, I don't want to take him anywhere recreational anymore bc of it. don't get me wrong my kids can be a pain too but I discipline for wrong doing, they respect me and take me serious., stepson dont?What should I do, I am ready to leave this divided home bc I am tired of my husband doing my son wrong.

First of all, I've been married for 1 and a half year. Me and my husband both have kids he has 6 and I have 2. Only one of his kids live with us and he is 6years old. My daugher is six and my son nine. It seems as if the kids are dividing us. He lets his son get away with lots of things, he don't discipline him at all. When you mention it to him he says that he go do things the way he do. But his son is doing the same thing over and over again. For example, he starts spats with the kids, he always hits my older son and his father never says anything. His son and my son always argue. It's like a divided home bc he feels that i defend my child, ( i do sometimes bc my husband isnt fair with my children) He cater to his son, damn anybody else's feeling around him ( including mines). Don't get me wrong I love my husband and stepson, but it seems as if my husband takes his son side even if he is wrong. I tell him constantly that his child isn't the only child in the house, but his decisions on punnishment for my kid is harsh especially my son. But stepson can be bad at school and still get rewards, that isn't fair. My son has all A's in school and he is treated like his behavior is bad and school while stepson is treated like he has all A's. Just yesterday, my stepson hit my son and he does this often, he gets away with it. But anyways, my  son finally got fed up and hit him in the eye . I feel that they shouldn't fight but if you hvae someone constantly hitting you just bc he knows that he is going to get away with it, sometimes you have to take matters in you own hands. My husband didn't like that so he put my son in a head lock and hit him. I don't think that was right bc his son constantly starts stuff and when my son tells him its like he put a brick wall up bc he does nothing. What should I do bc my son has had so many things happen to him by stepson and his dad will not listen to my son at all. It's not fair. My son said he wish that it could be just me, him and his sister again,  and I agreed in my mind. My stepson don't have way listen to him so you know that I feel disrespected. He acts like a baby alot ,he has his dad wrapped around his little finger. I always tell his dad that every bad thing deserve consequences, instead he rewards for bad things as it may seems. I want to walk away from this relationship for other reasons more serious than this. My stepson is a piece of work. Every where that i take him is is rotten, I don't want to take him anywhere recreational anymore bc of it. don't get me wrong my kids can be a pain too but I discipline for wrong doing, they respect me and take me serious., stepson dont?What should I do, I am ready to leave this divided home bc I am tired of my husband doing my son wrong.