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June 28, 2008, 8:21 pm PDT
06/30 Inappropriate In-laws
Quote From: ramairThe Bible says, in the book of Genesis, that a man is to leave his mother and father and cleave unto his wife. I interpret that to mean that the wife also leave her parents to cleave unto her husband. Of course, God isn't telling husbands and wives to have nothing to do with their parents, and in-laws. But, when a man and a woman get married, their marriage becomes their primary relationship. Which doesn't preclude their already established family relationships. Or, forming new relationships with their in-laws. But, boundaries need to be set. To keep parents and in-laws intruding too much into their marriage. And, under extreme circumstances, the couple might have to avoid any contact with a parent, or in-law. Bambi's behavior, physically assaulting her son-in-law and looking for a gun with which to shoot him, suggests that she's a danger to him. And, not only declaring her daughter dead, but putting a fake grave in her own yard? Sheeesh! That's creepy. Sounds like Bambi's one super-sicko nut-job. I'll bet her daughter got married just to get away from her. I totally agree that once you are married you form your own family unit separate from your parents. My in-laws were at our wedding (of course) and we used that as the basis for our wedding sermon to coincide with the unity candle. However, my mother - in- law has turned on us since we've been married. Walking into our house whenever she pleases using our things and returning them or not. She stands and listens to our conversations, even cames over while we were having relations. She came in and watched me use the toilet, change clothes, etc. nothing was sacred to her. I've asked her to please wait until someone answers the door but she stated it's nothing she hasn't seen or done before. It has escalated until we are not talking anymore; which I guess solved the privacy issues (* not in the most positive way) but it is not good in many other ways. Even when her son talked to her about it, she just blew up. Many other things have occurred that lead me to believe that that bridge is burned! Now she acts totally off her rocker and is verbally abusive to others in her family (ei. grand children, and some of her other children) . My job as a mother now is to protect my kids. Bambi's daughter must do the same thing with her family. Sadly at the lose of a relationship, but she must protect her family unit. That's part of her job! Unless she finds proof that her family would be safe and her mother recieves help.
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