Replies to '08/04 Daddy Drama'

I don't think it's fair to call these children selfish. It is a lot to take in and accept that thier father is now living life as a woman. I have 2 grown children and they are very close to my husband. I have to believe that it would be very hard for them to accept if thier dad decided to become a woman. It would be something similiar to a death, except that, with these girls thier dad has died and come back as a woman. They need to have time to mourn the dad that they have lost. Perhaps with time and counseling they can come to accept this "death", so to speak, and learn to understand why their father needed to do this. This is not something that thier father can force them to accept. I think they have to do it on thier own terms. In the end they will either accept it or they won't.

I completely agree with the above respondent. These children need some professional counseling to understand and deal with their father's change to being a woman. The girls need help to mourn the loss of "the ideal father" they have in their minds, and find in their hearts a way to make a new relationship with Kayla. It could be much worse if Kayla had taken a different route to ending her torment, which thankfully she has not.

Even more important, I think Dr. Phil should have been more understanding of Kayla's position. She too needs help, which I did not hear Dr. Phil offer, as he usually does. What would be better - that Kayla continues to dress as a man and perhaps fall into severe depression and/or harm herself? This is sadly too often the case with gender identity issues. Then the children would not have Kayla as a parent at all. The audience was also quick to judge Kayla - but one needs to find and love themself before they can love others. Kayla has not committed any crimes, and the Dr. Phil and the audience should not have been so hard on her.

I have experienced a gender change in my own family. Its a very difficult life to lead prior to the transition and afterwards. The family members all need love and support. It is important to be open minded and accepting of others. Kayla, best wishes, and do try and reach out to your daughters and help them find their way back to you.

You are so wrong!  Are you a parent?  Children are born to be selfish, especially as a child.  Those girls certainly don't need to grow up.  Are you aware of their tender and impressionable ages?  Unlike those precious girls I had an amazingly happy childhood and guess what?  My father was my hero.  Parents are given the responsibility to raise their children.  This is HUGE!!!  That means that you must sacrifice for the needs of your children.  You also nees to be a role model for them.  What are they learning from their father?  #1 Divorce, well we all know that that is a selfish choice.  #2 Their needs cannot be met until their father's is met?  How will they know what it takes when they become parents themselves.  We've lowered the bar in this world.  Haven't you noticed?  I blame people like you.  The world needs more Heroes and we are not going to get them with yso many people like you not wanting to be held accountable for their actions/decisions.  He made a conscious choice to get married and have children.  They had no choice.  It is his responsibility to carry out with his promises and that does not include denying his children the financial support that they need, just so he/she can continue to invest in changing his gender.  Wake-up!  He has irrevocably hurt these girls his own daughters and for this I'm sure that he will never find inner peace or true happiness.  My heart is aching for these poor girls as well as their mother and family that must pick up the pieces and move on.  Like my mother told me with regards to raising my own children, there are some people who's halos should never fall. 

Maybe he did agonize over this. But I have three (3) questions.

1. Did he seek counseling before making this decision?

2. And if he has so much love for his children, why is he not paying child support for the 13 year old?

3. What about tuition for the 21 year old, if she wants to attend college.

You may be able to escape your gender, but not your resposibilities!

You're sickening.  How can you say this what this so called person being born a boy, grew up to be a "man."  Gotten married, had 2 daughters, then decides to be a "woman."  His daughters were very close to their Father and sounds like he was close to them.  They're very hurt.  They already have a "Mother," they don't need to have another one.  He's the one is being "very selfish." 

You're the one that needs to grow up!!!!  One thing for sure, if your Father decided to change his gender to become a woman, you'll be singing a different tune.  I know down deep inside it'll hurt you, just as it did for these two young girls.

I know I couldn't accept him as a woman, when he needs to be man and a Father to his own daughters.

 It's time for YOU to grow up! You or no-one can expect a 12 year old child to understand what this is about!

And you say she is selfish? That poor child will go through so many emotional rollercoasters over the next 10 years that you have no idea what this man has done to his child. You YES YOU need to grow up if you think that that baby is out of line, that child is in for deep trouble if her mother and sister don't keep a good eye on her, and people like you that are just plain dumb need to stay away from them.