When I read your message, it touched me very deeply. I have an older brother who has an extreme drinking problem. He can't hold any jobs, he has no real friends, no real life. I see this tearing him down more and more every day and I am powerless to help him. I beg, threaten, plead, bribe and anything else I can think of to try to help him. All to no avail. The only thing I can offer you are what I have done to try to cope with my brother's choice for his life. I attend support groups for families of addiction dependent people. At the meetings they can really help you navigate through some of these difficult times. They can show you some things you may never have think of on your on. They can also give you support and education on the type of addiction that your spouse is facing. If you'll just google the city and state that you live in and alanon, you should find support groups in your area. There are often more than one, so if you try one and it doesn't do what you want, try another. I hope this helps you because I know just how hard it can be to watch your loved ones go through devastating addictions. Good Luck!
