Quote From: sky1514356Hello everyone reading this,
I am a single mom of a great 5 year old boy, his father has not been around since birth and has recently decided that he wants to be involved in mine and my son's life again. However he also has another son (my son's half brother) who is only 9 months younger than my own son. He has not paid child support and my son does not have his last name. I have mixed feelings about allowing him to see my son, nor do I know how to go about introducing him to my son. So far me and his father are getting along well but it has only been a few weeks since he has come back around. If anyone knows how to introduce them to each other or has been in a similar situation PLEASE respond with sugestions. Thanks INDIANA MOM
i have 3 boys, 2 of which have the same father and he sounds alot like your son's father. It's easy to feel that if he isn't supporting the child, then he doesn't deserve to see him. I felt that way for a long time but i have always allowed my boys to see their dad whenever possible. I didn't want them to grow up and feel like i kept them from having a relationship from him. He's never really been an active part of their lives, even though he's had every opportunity and now that they're older (9&13) they realize exactly how he is, without me ever telling them. I knew they'd find out for themselves.
since your son has never met his dad, my advice would be to have him spend time with your son at your house, or the 3 of you could do something together. i wouldn't send him alone with someone who is a complete stranger to him, especially at his age. then as he gets to know his dad, over a period of time, then he could spend time alone with him. i would just make sure that he's comfortable with it. i'd look at it in a positive way--seems like he's trying to get back into his son's life and making an effort. and i'm sure your son would love to get to know his brother too. just take it slow---good luck!!
