Quote From: morningdoveYou seem to of missed the point. Yes there is no doubt she has an agenda. As to the child sneaking off to meet with her he knows this is not an issue of him seeing his mother with us. He knows he can see her when they want to spend time together and arrangements can easily be made to get him to their visits...but because of past experience with her she is not welcome in our home period!
She is setting up meeting with the child without first speaking with the custodial parent period and wanting to remove the child from his classroom during classes is unacceptable that is why my husband suggested that she take him out for lunch instead. The parent who has custody of their child'/children will agree is not acceptably. Neither my husband nor I are in anyway trying to come between the child and his mother...
As I said in my first letter there is more to this situation with the child's mother which one could write a book on what I will say has taken place within the last year. She is the one who chose to throw the child away like yesterdays newspaper and now wants back in his life "obviously she has realized her mistake after all of these years and wants a relationship with the child. Fine and good." But she has tried on different times to under-mind our parenting of the child and this is quoting her "you don't have to listen to your dad or her...it is better to ask forgiveness then ask for permission." This is just one of many things that have arisen with her in the past year.
Thank-you again...but it wasn't helpful...Take Care Sunstone
Your stepson went into school expecting to be able to see his mother. He didn't because your husband left you to make a 'phone call instead of sending in a SIGNED letter. Then your stepson's version of whatever was said by the school employee who refused him permission to leave was dismissed out of hand.
You don't want the ex at your house, she doesn't want to go through you to get to organise things with your husband. Your stepson at 12 doesn't see the need to report all details of his 'phone and computer conversations with his mother to you and your husband. If your husband doesn't set things up and facilitate their meetings this will continue.
