Quote From: cndrllaUntil I saw the last 2 minutes of the show, I was convinced that Bambi was 3 1/2 bubbles off-center; a hopeless, real dangerous nut case......and she no doubt does have some serious issues with self-control, and with being a violent control freak where her daughter and son-in-law are concerned. She is extremely dramatic and is desperately trying to hold on to her daughter, and I see much jealousy towards Adam, her son-in-law.....however, I did see a ray of hope when I saw the look and smile on her face, and a glimpse of a softer person, when she saw her darling granddaughter at the end of the show, so maybe all is not lost. (Bambi no doubt needs some kind of therapy though....this is a very angry woman.)
She should be very proud of her daughter for trusting her husband 100%....that's how is is supposed to be in a marriage! With the divorce rate being at 60%, does she want her daughter to be another statistic, and her granddaughter to be raised without her father, who seems to be a loving, decent guy?
I raised my children (a boy and 2 girls) to each value their marriage, and that their spouse and their children were number one, not me! I raised them to be free-thinking, independent adults who are in control of theirown lives.....I do NOT want to try to live their lives for them; I have my hands full living my own life! Our dynamics have changed as they have grown up, and that is how it should...and must...be. I would be disappointed in them, and in myself as a parent, if they could not control their own lives.
As a result, I have wonderful relationships with my children and their spouses, and enjoy my beautiful grandchildren, too.
I wouldn't have it any other way!
I,too, hope that Bambi gets some therapy. I don't know if she can change on her own. You know, she is not the only parent like this. She's the only person I have ever heard of who has erected grave markers to signify the death and burial of her relationships.(I wonder why she didn't have markers for the four ex husbands?) Wonder why some people are unable to ease into the change of a parent's role in their kids' lives. I feel the same as you as far as telling my kids that their significant other has to come first. From what I have seen, it makes it very difficult to have a successful relationship if the significant other does not come first. I think it would be very exhausting to try and live my kids lives for them. I tried to feel some compassion for Bambi, and I can to a certain extent. She has missed out on a lot in her daughter, son-in-law and granddaughter's lives by being the way she is. That's really sad. But, then she opens her mouth and makes it a little difficult to muster some sympathy. I think, under the right circumstances she could be a very dangerous woman, unless she can change her thought processes. I hope she can see the light and try to make a change. One of these days those grave markers are going to be real.
