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May 4, 2008, 8:52 am PDT

Career Goals

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I know your absolutely right. I guess the problem is that i cannot think of anything that i would actually really like doing except for unreasonable career's like acting or singing. I don't feel like i can quite fit in anywhere and i'm scared that i will just jump from one unsatisfying job to another. It's a little different here in Quebec then other places. I know i'm smart and educated but the fact of the matter still is i'm not francophone enough to land the good jobs in my area. those are reserved for the smart and educated french people. So what happens is that i fall into these tiny sketch anglophone companies, but along with that comes unstability, unreasonably low pay for the work being done. always alone and the list goes on. Really not as professional as i would like. I have been looking for jobs but i can't seem to find any that are worth applying too. I've been thinking of startign a family a lot. I'd want to stay at home and take care of my family and i know your right, it's not a walk in the park and i definately didn't mean to imply that in my previous post but at least the hard work I put into my family would benefit my family and will be rewarding unlike working for someone else for the purpose of them taking care of their family. Not nearly as rewarding for me. I know i want to be a stay at home mom, my boyfriend is just not ready yet. I don't want to pressure him because that's unfair to him, me and if we were to have children right now. It still dosen't solve my problem i guess. School...in what? what classes? what am I interested in (BTW, i graduated college twice) i'm fresh out of ideas.....do i stick it out here until my boyfriend is ready for a family (this seems like the best answer however the most self-destructive one as well) or do i job jump until i get it right?

And your right, i think i am falling into a slight depression, it wouldn't be the first time! I'll talk to my doctor. Maybe that's the camouflaged solution.

Thanks so much for your response. I know it may seem as though I took nothing from it but I assure you I have!

I am glad you were able to get something from my post. Being a mom is amazingly satisfying and hard work but you are right it will greatly benefit your family. Being a stay at home mom may be your perfect niche. I found a great balance between family and career. I am blessed that my 3.5 day career actually helps me be a better mom. I know not everyone is so lucky. Many moms love being a stay at home mom and couldn't be any happier and I hope that for you!

If you don't know what you want to go to school for than don't waste your money and apparently time that doesn't help get a job in your area. Does your boyfriend have a good job? Are you both happy living in Quebec? If not maybe you need a new scenery and consider moving to a new place with perhaps better opportunities. Whether you stay in your current job and job jump keep in mind that with your current goals this is merely a stepping stone to get to being a stay at home mom. Thinking of it as temporary may make it a bit more bearable. You know - The light at the end of the tunnel theory. Take small steps to achieve your ultimate end you want. How long have you and your boyfriend been together? Is your boyfriend ready to commit to a marriage with you? Those are important questions to answer before jumping to children. Children do alter and add some stress to a relationship. You don't want to be a single mom in the end. (Not saying you will - just I don't know the insides of your relationship and trying to give you all aspects to look at.) And you are very correct in knowing to pressure him is unfair to all involved. That is very insightful and respectful to others!

I think getting the depression under control will at least lift a bit of the cloud over your head. Then you can make better decisions to make life more satisfying. I have been there and understand the effects of depression on one's life. I also know the sooner it is treated the easier to recover from it.