That is something I touched on in my last message, although I labeled these guys narcissists. Both related problems, both personality disorders. I would guess that most women have had a bad experience with one of the above types. After all, they do exist in the general population at about 1-2%. The title of this show was Male Egos, but I would have liked a different wrap up that could possibly save at least one woman from this kind of life experience with either a narcissist or a sociopath.
I would have liked to have seen information on warning signs, how to deal with these personalities, how they tend to brainwash unsuspecting victims, etc. I just see these types of personalities so frequentlly on the show (i.e. the compulsive liar on the previous day) and I think they need to be labeled for the dangerous personalities they are, that they do not respond to help or treatment, that they present themselves are charming for awhile and in certain situations, but are ultimately the most abusive and life denying types of personalities that can suck the life out of, and make normal people doubt themselves. They can also stalk and have other additions. Be sure of that.
Why play up their charm on the Dr. Phil show that is so dedicated to high priniciples and has helped so many people? These types are afraid of closeness and ultimately abuse the people who are in their life but because they are so schooled in presenting their veneer, half the people in their life make the abused one feel like they are crazy because he/she does not show this side to everyone. They live in fantasy land as well. They have no real friends, just contacts, and feeders for their narcissistic needs. They are really sicker than just about any of the victimized people one would ever see on the Dr. Phil show but for whatever reason, the media plays into their self-adoration.
Women are really catching on to an understanding of this narcissist/sociopath problem, especially with all the information and activity readily available on the internet. A woman really, really needs to educate herself, and men too, because there are women with these personalities too. I have educated myself, I spot the red flags just like that, and I get rid of people like this in my life if I can because no good can ever come of this. If tone has been victims of these charmers, and do not understand the dynamics, it can waste years of these lives in self-doubt, poor self-esteem, lost dreams, make excuses for their behavior, think it is their fault, etc. Understanding is absolutely crucial for self-preservation. They do not operate in any way with the mind set that you and I operate with and it is pointless to try to figure out their motivations, because they are really living in a different world.
Do, if you think any of these guys are anyone you want to spend time with because they are sparking your chemisty or you think you can "fix" them , think again, educate yourself on the sociopathic and narcissistc personality disorder. It will save you years of hearache, self-doubt, and lost dreams, and you can never fix them.
