Quote From: derevna33 Thirty-three years of sobriety for you is an accomplishment. The odd part of the story is that a co-dependent requires twice as long recovering--if at all. The whole time, everyone sees the damage alcohol has done to the drunk. Utter strangers feel sorry for them. Once the drunk stops drinking, the co-dependent's life is supposed to be miraculously changed.
Few addicts understand the effect their illness has on their family. They have broken the heart of people unfortunate enough to love them. You daughter feels as if she carried the weight of the world on her shoulders. She's done the best she could, and she still can't make you happy.
Now be honest, you want your daughter's forgiveness because it would be convenient for you. You'd be off the hook. You wouldn't have to feel guilty.
I too know your loneliness and your fears. Thank God for Alanon.
I am learning to be me all over again. Be gentle with yourself & work the 12 steps for sanity.
My entire family has been affected by alcohol.
My mother has never been there for me. I tried to be there for my 4 children but they want me out of their lives. I miss my grand daughter sooo much. I was not allowed to see her.
Everyone blames everything on me.
It hurts deeper than life itself.
You are in my prayers for a peaceful life with your family.
