Replies to 'Career Goals'
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May 16, 2008, 8:17 am PDT
 Quote From: newsoul I am glad you were able to get something from my post. Being a mom is amazingly satisfying and hard work but you are right it will greatly benefit your family. Being a stay at home mom may be your perfect niche. I found a great balance between family and career. I am blessed that my 3.5 day career actually helps me be a better mom. I know not everyone is so lucky. Many moms love being a stay at home mom and couldn't be any happier and I hope that for you!
If you don't know what you want to go to school for than don't waste your money and apparently time that doesn't help get a job in your area. Does your boyfriend have a good job? Are you both happy living in Quebec? If not maybe you need a new scenery and consider moving to a new place with perhaps better opportunities. Whether you stay in your current job and job jump keep in mind that with your current goals this is merely a stepping stone to get to being a stay at home mom. Thinking of it as temporary may make it a bit more bearable. You know - The light at the end of the tunnel theory. Take small steps to achieve your ultimate end you want. How long have you and your boyfriend been together? Is your boyfriend ready to commit to a marriage with you? Those are important questions to answer before jumping to children. Children do alter and add some stress to a relationship. You don't want to be a single mom in the end. (Not saying you will - just I don't know the insides of your relationship and trying to give you all aspects to look at.) And you are very correct in knowing to pressure him is unfair to all involved. That is very insightful and respectful to others!
I think getting the depression under control will at least lift a bit of the cloud over your head. Then you can make better decisions to make life more satisfying. I have been there and understand the effects of depression on one's life. I also know the sooner it is treated the easier to recover from it.
Keep me informed! I feel the same exact way you do and have felt and been this way for a long time. I just turned the big 40 and if I dont figure out what the hell it is I want to do with my life I will be too old to work..LOL..I grew up always trying to prove something to my family, always trying to accomplish the unaccomplishable. I quit college for fine art because the math teacher called me stupid over and over again in front of the class, my father told me I was wasting my time, that you dont make any money at art. Everything I have ever done on a creative level I would pick things up so fast and when I did that I would get bored and move onto the next thing. For intstance; one yr I started creating these fairy tale creatures out of gourds, I sold them and was published on the front page of a local newspaper, i eventually stopped with the gourds because of allergies and the mold on the gourds was so awful..but even though I felt the newspaper article was a big accomplishment I have always wanted to accomplish something bigger, maybe to prove to my family that I am somebody they can be proud of.
I have been working on an art book and am afraid to submit my proposals to publishers for fear of failure. But at the same time I dont want to let fear stand in my way. I don want to fail. As I have failed over and over again. My family calls me flighty and they make fun of me for trying to accomplish what they perceive to be the unaccomplishable. So I have kept this book project I have been working on a secret so I dont have to hear the same words: YOU FAILED AGAIN!
Back to the work issue; If there is a crappy job out there I will find it. last month I worked at an oil change place, putting air in tires, changing rear light bulbs, talking to the customers, you also had to read off this huge list to each customer as to what the oil man did to the car. It was fast paced, working on 3 cars at once, no break for 7 1/2 hrs, nothing to eat for 7 1/2 hrs. It was horrible. I quit after one day even though the owner didnt want me too..No matter what job I do I always work my butt off and they never want me to leave but I never stay cause I hated the job! Everyone is always saying, everyone has to work, everyone hates their job and I think why should I have to work at a job I hate? I want to be happy at a job, not miserable. Maybe there is no such thing as being happy at a job?!
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