Replies to '05/06 Moochers'

What is it with these 40  or more year old men wh have no concious?  Unfortunatly I fell in love with one of these moochers, but really didnt realize he was a moocher until he moved away.  This 43 year old man I dated, not only lived off his mother for three years, in her house, but she cosigned  for his 50,000 truck ( which is not worth it) , because his credit was shot from yes, a divorce.  When Mom was ill and couldnt work for two years due to her health and I believe depression, The "GOOD SON" blamed her for the foreclosure  on there house, bankruptcy for all the bills ect... not once did he ever say that yes he hadnt worked in the past two years, and it was also his fault. He told every  family member he could get through to that it was all her fault for his proiblems!  AHHH HA.  So... He hitches a ride to Montana with his friend, a few jobs here and there, but  He never helped pay for any bills because he had to save his money for his 700.00 a month truck payment. He also didnt pay for rent.

When things went south from that episode (lasted about 2 months)Then he talked to best friend from Maryland ,  He again gave his sad sob story of how he didint have enough work, and was broke. His friend, offerd to pay his way to Maryland (with the stipualtion that my ex pays him back)  live with him, until he got a  job and got back on his feet. This friend has two small girls, Child support payments, a mortgage, and other financial obligations. My ex has  lived there since December,  he has had some good paying jobs, but his main concern is not paying  for anything but his truck payment and insurance.  He lives in his friends basement, I know he has paid for some food, but he has never onvce paid for utilitys, or rent.  He now goes and  has asked everyone of his friends many times to "Borrow" some money, because well he cant afford the gas in his big truck, he needs cigarettes and beer everyday.  He also enjoys the bar down the street and playing the lottery, which for some reason he has the money for the bar and lottery tickets.  And yes he has even asked me two times to borrow money.  I did loan him 100.00 beecause he had loaned me some, but then two weeks later, he asked to borrow another 50- 75.00.  I am a single mom!!  I am financially strained too!

I told him no the secound time. I was in shock that he even asked  me twice!  What a jerk!  I have told him to get rid of the truck, save all that money and get your own home to rent. His response was I cant, I need my truck for work!  I told him you can buy a good used truck.  But deep down inside, that truck is a status symbol for him.  And honestly I dont believe he minds the mooching.  HEs not embarrased by it anymore, it is his way of living.  I know if his friend kicks him out of the basement, he will eventually find someone else to move in, someone else to mooch off of so he can keep his precious truck. 

I know he probably owes close to 5000.00 alone to just his two closet friends and who know how much more he owes for his others he has "Borrowed" from.  I guess he expects to live with his bst friend for the rest of his life.  Unfortunatly for him, I dont believe he realizes this could destroy his best friends relationship.  You can only borrow so much money from a best friend, and then the friend realizes whats going on....