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May 6, 2008, 8:25 am PDT
 Quote From: karynm8621 I never intend to ignore questions so if I had I apologize. There's so much information flying back and forth that it gets tough when you have a point to make that is one of a possible handful in the thread. I assume you're talking about the "he/she" comment.
I think I understood the context and I only point those things out because people of inter-sexed conditions do view certain words as slurs. The word "tranny" for instance conjures up negative stereotypes that really don't fit. After reading what you were trying to convey I honestly don't think it was done with intended malice.
While I don't consider myself an authority by any means I can relate things to my own circumstance and at times lay out answers that I do have experience in. Hence the monetary breakdown. Even for me some of my transition has been absorbed by my insurance and it is still and expensive process. I've spent close to $3000 in just facial hair removal by laser alone. Transition is not an easy path and this is one of the reasons it tends to rub me when people call it a choice without ever walking the path.
When i get chance I'll sit and do some research on the "opposing viewpoints". At times that can be a tough pill for me to swallow because I see such a change in the quality of my life in just a few short years. I'm seeing my own dysphoria slip away one day at a time now and I'm finally finding a sense of inner peace.
To answer your legal questions, I'm not well versed in law but I know of a few issues. First of all I find it hard to believe that any judge would remove child support responsibilities from a "biological" parent. In some instances I'm aware of heterosexual couples that have either married and took care of their spouses children or been lied too and found out that the child was not theirs. The judge still implemented child support based on past intent in the relationship even though the children weren't theirs.
As far as trans people go there have been cases either way with other issues. The law varies so much just state to state that it really depends on local laws. There was a case I read of not long ago where the marriage was nullified because the person had been born biological male and married as a female. In that case IIRC it was over insurance money in the death of a spouse. In another case a couple got divorced and the husband tried to invalidate the marriage due to the wife a trans-woman being born biological male to prevent alimony. The case went in favor of the wife and she was awarded the spousal support.
The point is that the law will only be relative to where you live and how it is interpreted by a judge.
Yes. I definitely understand tranny being a slur. I appreciate that you noticed. I forget the proper name for the / mark in this case, but it eliminates the and/or like instead of he and she/he or she like the apostrophe in cannot for can't, do not for don't. Fair warning, if you think the conclusions, I've come to are a bit extreme; you're not going to like the conclusions from some of those articles. I think that you'll find; I'm really quite tame in comparison. There are times when a judge doesn't enforce the child support. I'd define that as the same thing without a public announcement of a decision. I know a family that fell into this category. But, the judge did eventually rule in favor of the father due to a mental defect. Yeah, that worries me because every time a judge makes a decision depending on the judge in another can make decisions from a past precedant.
(Thanks for the apology, but I don't think that you have anything to apologize for. And, thank you for clearing the he/she up a bit for me. I'll keep my eye on the word use that way it's evident that it's he and she or he or she and not written as a slur in intent.) |
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