Pride cometh before a fall. Whenever we pass judgment on someone else, we open our own lives up to experiencing a temptation that can lead to the same situation or worse. The bible says that all humans are capable of ALL sins, basically lest we judge and then we fall. I know of a man who judged a friend of his and a friend of his wifes for cheating and ruining their marriages, he was also getting very involved in voluntering at a center where he advocated remaining faithful and abstaining from sex before marriage... then he ran into a woman from his "past" drinking and partying life and went out with her once, got totally drunk (he was not used to drinking anymore) and committed infidelity on his family and sent his life and mental health into a talespin too.
TO JASON and others in hurtful marriages:
Here are some GREAT resources that can help turn a marriage like this around, even ones worse than this.
The Amplified Bible (like Joyce Meyer's one because it is EASY to read and understand and it has a lot of helpful "talks" in it - read the Gospels, the new testament, and Hosea - he married an adulteress and loved her through it - Study Jesus, Stephen, the other disciples, if they can be praising God and preaching after being whipped and standing in a prison for preaching then if we have Jesus Christ in our heart, then we can do all things and faint not)
Divorce Busting by Michele Weiner - Davis (a lot of techniques that have QUICK results)
Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs (read the WHOLE book - the last chapters address what to do if it does not "appear" to be working or if the offensive spouse seems to be getting worse)
Breaking Free by Beth Moore (read the WHOLE book, this explains bondage and a spouse committing adultery and thinking that she is not hurting anyone is BLINDED and in bonded - she needs to be surrounded by prayers that the scales from her eyes fall off in Jesus name - pray it, stand on it, and wait for it - CONFESS THE CHANGE, don't confess the circumstance - see with the eyes of faith and speak on THAT and ONLY THAT).
Demonology and Deliverance at bennyhinn.org - this gets into the depth of spiritual warfare - people in bondage to adultery, lust, homosexuality, perversity, lying, prostitution, etc are in bondage
When you are in a relationship like this and standing through it, these prayer lines can help you to pray through it rather than talk to someone who is negative and speaking death over your situation (remember Proverbs 18:21 death and life are in the tongue and those who indulge WILL eat the fruit of it for good or bad). If you have a hard time believing in the power of YOUR words, then read The Power of Your Words by Dan Gossett - this book is about $6 at the Family Christian bookstores and watch the movie What the Bleep Do We Know - this movie will illustrate the concept through a story, scientists discussing it, and it shows the water presentation - there is lots about this available online and the science regarding the water molecules is real - I have the lecture in Japanese which is available online too.
Many of these prayer lines are available 24/7 and I can also be emailed for prayer, my info is under my profile.
www.family.org
Focus on the Family - 1 free phone counseling session per year and an excellent referral locally 800 A FAMILY or 800 232 6459
Copeland Ministries
www.kcm.org
1 800 575 4455
Free magazine - Victory Voice
Daystar Prayer Line
1 800 329 0029
Can leave message and receive call back
Benny Hinn Ministries (Miracle Crusades & Conferences)
1 800 433 1900
www.BennyHinn.org
Life Today Ministries
www.lifetoday.org
1 800 955 0777 prayer line and donation line for building wells & feeding children
Joyce Meyer Ministries
www.joycemeyer.org
1 800 727 9673
Free magazine - Enjoying Everyday Life
www.PeterYoungren.org
24 Hour Prayer Center 1 800 275 2713
Can leave message or get call back
www.cnb.com
1 (800) 759-0700
The Prayer Club 24 hours- usually someone picks up
Marriages like this CAN BE turned around, SINNERS CAN CHANGE with Jesus, and miracles still do happen all the time, TODAY, for those who believe. The prayers of a righteous man avail much - in James from the bible.
Heather
