Quote From: jillybean27If you're not getting what you need from your husband, you turn TOWARDS him. You discuss your feelings, concerns, wants and needs. You suggest counseling. You do what you can to help your relationship survive and thrive. After all is said and done, if it is decided the relationship just cannot be worked out, you part ways. You deal with the issues as you learn to live separately and co-parent as a non-couple. When everyone is settled and adjusted, THEN you move on to someone else. You don't move on and involve more people when you still have unfinished business to take care of. It is selfish and unfair to all parties involved.
Well, I would like to speak not to the blame but the burden facing all concerned, including at least three children. After, 34 years of marrriage I discovered my wife was having an affair. I understand she had her reasons for this betrayal, as I had several affairs during our marriage. Had I known the pain this act n causes I would never even thought about delivering this unbelievable pain to another human being. That was the most difficult for me to understand, How could you deliver such a crushing blow to someone you profess to love? Believe me there will no winners or losers in this situation. however this situation can be resolved, but with a lot of work on themselves and their future, Shani to you I would like to say forgive yourself and do whats best for all, especially you.
I must confess that divorce isn't all bad. what with no one telling me , well anything. however the best part is realizing that you are an individual and that you like yourself.
Best of Luck!!!!!
Dennis
