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May 21, 2008, 2:04 pm PDT
please refer to hollyfishing
Quote From: itry2bhapy I am curious about how much parenting my husband can do with my son? I know dr. phil says let the bio parent do the parenting and the step parent step back and be more of a friend... however, I grew up in a house with 2 sets of step parents. My dad step parented my mom's first kids and my mom step parented my dad's first child and then they had me and my brother together. Now both my parents acted as parents to each other's kids and things worked out fine. Now i feel like i want my husband to step up and help me more with my son. It's half his house so, he should also enforce the household rules...Does anyone else agree? What wrong can come out of it if my son is complient and respects the idea of it? It's funny because my son totally respects my hubby. if my hubby says no, or do this, my son complys big time and won't do it again. where if i tell him to do something or not to do something he seems to always forget and does it again. so, whats wrong with getting things our way by having my hubby stepping in? He thinks it's not his place, i think it is. so, give me your thoughts, ALL your thoughts, on the matter...Thanks! P.S. if dr. phill or robin want to add to this, please do! lol I sent a response to a msg posted by hollyfishing that I meant for you. I think your husband certainly could back you up. I never make the rules with my step daughter but I will enforce them when my husband is or is not around. I dont have to parent so to speak but I also am not a silent observer. I am his greatest ally and supporter. and he is mine. we each had one a piece when we married and then had one together. So we try to be as consistent as possible. His daughter gets away with things I will never allow but that is because I am not her mom. We parent as a team(most of the time) and that when things are the best. Children will test parents always, so its great to have back up when things heat up on the front lines.
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