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May 16, 2008, 9:58 am PDT

Is This Normal?

Quote From: jenny3

I feel so alone in this, and I wonder if anyone else struggles guilt of loosing virginity at a young age.  I was 14 when I was pressured into sex by my best friend's 18 yr old brother.  We ended up in a relationship (if you can call it that) for 9 mths until I broke things off.  Soon afterwards I began dating the man who would become my husband. 

 

It has been 15 years since I lost my virginity and I still think about it..... probably because I see and talk to the man I lost my virginity to almost everyday.  (Yes, my husband knows.  He talks to him more than I do.)

 

My question is how do other people feel when they talk to their first?

Do you constantly wonder, "Is he thinking of what we did"?

Is it okay for me to still have some fond memories?

 

Don't get me wrong... I love my husband and I do NOT regret my choice to commit my life to him.  He is the greatest man I could ever imagine being married to.  My husband loves me and respects me and he is my very best friend.  He know everything about me. 

 

Still if I had to do it over again... I must admit that I did enjoy my short relationship befor I began dating my husband.  The man I lost my virginity to is a nice and happy, fun guy.  I may regret how things began between us and that I was so young when we were together, but I don't regret that he was a part of my history.  Is this wrong?

No not at all. It is great you accept your history and feel good about it. That relationship helped in making who you are now. Even though it didn't work out it was nice at that time that is good and there is no shame in remembering that.

 


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