Quote From: 1FAMLYAS I SAID IN MY ORIGINAL POST, "ONLY 'ONE' TIME" HAVE I EVER SPANKED MY CHILDREN IN A MANNER TO "HURT" AS TO MY OLDEST SON. I HAVE "SWATTED ON THE BUTTOCKS THROUGH BLUEJEANS AS YOU MIGHT SEE IN A SPORTS SCENARIO FOR A "JOB WELL DONE" TYPE OF SITUATION. THIS I HAVE DONE "MORE TO GET MY CHILD'S ATTENTION" THAN A FORM OF PUNISHMENT. IT IS STILL, LEGALLY, A "SPANK". I DISAGREE WITH YOUR ASSESSMENT OF ME CONTRADICTING MYSELF. MY VIEW OF SPANKING IS WHEN A CHILD GETS "SPANKED" TO A DEGREE OF SCREAMING AND TEARS-WHICH IS, STILL, AN "ASSAULT AND BATTERY".
IT IS GOOD THAT WE CAN AGREE TO DISAGREE WITHOUT GETTING ANGRY OR CARRIED AWAY AS IN MANY PARENT/CHILD SPANKING EPISODES.
WHEN A CHILD IS DOING SOMETHING WRONG AND YOU SWAT HIM/HER ON THE BUTT, GET THEIR ATTENTION, MAKE "EYE TO EYE" CONTACT AND "EXPLAIN (I REPEAT HERE "EXPLAIN") TO THEM
WHAT" THEY DID WRONG AND "ASK" THEM "WHY" THEY DID WHAT THEY DID, YOU MAKE A "POSITIVE" IMPRESSION BY TEACHING THEM TO "ANALYZE THEIR BEHAVIOR" AND TRY TO "CORRECT" IT INSTEAD OF "BEATING" THEM, OR EVEN SCREAMING AT THEM DURING THE EPISODE.
WE MUST SET THE EXAMPLE OF "RECOGNIZE WRONG", "ADMIT THE WRONG", AND "WORK TO FIX THE WRONG" FOR A MORE POSITIVE RESOLUTION FOR EVERYONE CONCERNED.
I WELCOME MORE COMMENTS/ CRITICISM AS I HAVE AN ANALYTICAL AND OPEN MIND.
THANX FOR LISTENING. GOD BLESS
ED BASS/BOONE IOWA
Ed, your statement about spanking a child to a degree where they're screaming and crying reminds me of a bad experience I had with that once. I saw a father in Disneyworld, right in front of the monorail screaming and hitting his child. He wasn't just a terror to his child, but to everyone else around him. I stood there waiting for him to notice me, if it wasn't for my parents screaming for me to come down, I would've stood there and waited for him to say, "What are you staring at?"
I would've looked right at him and said, "I'm staring at a child abuser."
Still makes me sick to think of it this day. That's why I'm so against spanking, I don't know what kind of person can see a child in that level of terror, and think they're gaining something from that.
