First of all, you are not a no one. That broke my heart when I read it but I completely understand. I was overweight for many, many years and I finally realized that no one was going to help me, only I could help me. I felt invisible because as a heavy person, people judge you, or at least that is how it feels. I had tried every diet, healthy and not healthy, I didn't care. I tried diet pills, hypnosis, dealameal, the zone, cabbage diet, LA weight loss, OMG the list goes on and on. What finally worked and continues to work was Dr. Phil's book. I realized, going through the keys and taking the tests, that my weight was not about eating but about emotional baggage. I thought that I was happy and and had the world by the horns and I did. I had suffered multiple miscarriages and scary pregnancies and gained weight actually more weight with each miscarriage than I did either live birth. I thought that I dealt with it each time because I knew it was God's will. What I discovered was that I hadn't. I never, ever would have connected those events in my life with keeping the unwanted pounds. I was a little heavy before pregnancies but I was morbidly obese after. It has always been hard for me to lose and maintain a healthy weight. I guess to make a short story long, with this book, I changed our lifestyle, not just mine, but my husband's lifestyle and my children's lifestyle, as well. We are in this as a family, so I'm not on some diet watching them eat the good stuff while I eat lettuce and cottage cheese. We all eat the "good stuff" and the stuff that is good for us. I had all kinds of heath issues as well, but I took it a day at a time and over time I have gone from walking to the mailbox a couple of times a day to up to 5 miles a day. I just participated in my first cancer walk and walked 10 miles without stopping, that was a victory. I will say, as a christian, that I prayed multiple times daily for God to direct my paths and give me strength to finally stick to something and I have done that. I read Dr. Phil's book 2 times before I was convinced that I could do it. I have lost over 120 pounds and have successfully kept it off for almost a year now. I do not even have the desire to eat the kind of stuff I used to eat because my tastes have changed. Please know that YOU and only YOU can help yourself. There are no offers or shows or anything else that will help you, you have to want to do it and commit to it. You will be in my prayers and I know that you are a somebody and you can do it.