Replies to '08/06 Nuptial Nightmares'

I agree that this is sad.  I've at times had to step in between my younger brother and mom.  I asked my mom, "Who is the parent here?"  She had to stop and think!!   I was 17 years old at the time. 

I think that parents are responsible for teaching respect.  Then respect follows with the other family members,  teachers, neighbors, friends, church and people in the community.

My mother meant no and if I had a tantrum she gave me a look and a swat on the bottom.  Did not matter where I was.  She only spanked me with her hand.  I was reminded of the consequences, before I did something that my parents thought was not right.  Made me think about my choices.  Just because I wanted something, did not mean I got it.  I had to earn it, either by saving up from my allowance.  At 16 I had my 1st part time job.  No more allowance.  The chores had to be done first and the homework had to be checked by either parent,  BEFORE any tv watching!  Children need boundaries and allow them to make proper choices within reason.  It is either A or B.   Here are the consequences.  My parents let me make the mistakes and I've learned from them.  Example, "Oh, I did that last time and I remember it was not a good choice.  This time, I will be more careful and choose this one."  I was jealous when my friends had their tv's, phones in their room.  I asked my mom and she told me why I could not have the phone or tv in the room.  Stormed out yelling, "That's not fair!"  My mom had her reasons and now I know why.  At the time I did not understand.  But as I grew older things began to become more clear. 

Children are spoiled today.  Parents buy presents to make up for lost time.  Children need the time and the parent's love not materialistic things.  As an adult, I appreciate the things that I have and have given up on the items that I do not need.  People should be happy for what they are thankful for.  If you have a job, roof over your head, clothes, food, family and friends, you should be happy.