Replies to '08/06 Nuptial Nightmares'

5/17/2008

 

Weddings generate great feelings, and that is nice.  But, when one cannot see past the Wedding Day prior to this day; the excitement might be blotting out some realities that they do not want to face. 

When people go into debt to plan that wedding, it bodes ill indeed.

 

And if the have the money and use it for the wedding instead of towards the down payment of a home, it doesn't look too good either.

 all your points are well-taken. but people can start out with a well-planned marriage and then, evnetually things change, needs change, they grow apart, etc. you can't really "plan" the wholemarriage b/c you can't see the fututre.much easier to plan a single event.

also,speaking of divorce.. i hate to say it, but often the wedding album and the video far outlast the marriage. sometimes those memories are the only good thing left behindwhen the marriage is over.

that being said,i think people should take a lighthearted attitude toward their weddings and laugh off anything that goes wrong. a sudden storm, a toppled cake, it's all part of their own unique "story." the pictures from such a wedding might be seen as interesting -- even fun -- not "ruined" by such mishaps.

I could not agree more!  These days brides are getting too wrapped up in playing the princess on their wedding day and aren't concerned enough with what comes after the wedding -- the marriage!  I think it's ridiculous that grown women wear tiaras on their wedding day!  You're not a princess - get over it! Your wedding day should be about the joining together of two people and two lives.  It should be about unconditional love and commitment - NOT playing the princess in the final frame of some fairytale that really doesn't exist.  True, we women all dream about this day as little girls and I loved watching Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty as well, but come on - grow up!

I DO, however, believe in a reasonably priced wedding that celebrates two people who are in love and ready to make a life-long commitment.  I believe that that deserves to be celebrated!  However, too many brides and grooms today are going into major debt trying to plan a "perfect" wedding.  There is no such thing - just like there is no such thing as a "perfect" marriage.  I'm 29, just bought a new house with my husband in April and we got married July 7th of 2007 and my advice to young couples wanting to get married today is to spend a moderate amount of money on the wedding and save your money for a much more important investment - your house!  As my parents taught me - moderation in everything! (including weddings)

Hopefully these women will stop idealizing and obsessing about the details of their wedding day and start working on the long-range commitment of their MARRIAGE.  It is easy to plan a perfect wedding. It is a far more difficult task to maintain, nurture and grow a marriage that will last for decades to come.