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October 14, 2005, 9:05 am PDT
 Quote From: piglet05 Hi everyone my name is Jamie Stevens. My family and I have been going threw alot. I have four kids three girls one boy. My oldest daughter has been going threw a really hard time, her biological father came into her life after 6 1/2 years of not even being around, DHS came into my family's life last year my children ended up in foster care, for some mistakes that me and my husbamd made, but we are making them better now. My oldest daughter was sexually molested by my sister's husband, we took her straight to the center that deals with only children who have threw this kind of tragic situation. She shut down anf would not take about it. We have her in counsling and on medcine cause she is having a hard time dealing with everything in her life, she became very angery and always upset and very aggressive towards everyone. Then on top of everything my mother died and she was really closed to her. My chirlden have been threw so much, I have been very depressed and I am trying to control me. I dont know how to handle my daughter Nicole, she just seem's so lost and distant. Plus on top of everything eles, her biological father let her jump off a deep in diving boared and watch her sink to the bottom of the pool, he did not jump in a save her. she almost died. She is so afaired of him she dont want nothing to do with him. I dont want to lose my daughter to anything, and dont know how I should handle the situation and hand. She is crying out for help I dont know where to start. So if anyone have any questions please helpp me figure out where or how to help her. Thank you. I'm really sorry about the sexual molestation. What an enormous betrayal for all of you. Your lives have been shattered, your trust is gone. But worst of all is that you are left with having to shape this very distraught girl while you yourself are confused. It's an enormous responsibility, and I do understand your distress.
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October 14, 2005, 1:23 pm PDT
Quote From: piglet05 Hi everyone my name is Jamie Stevens. My family and I have been going threw alot. I have four kids three girls one boy. My oldest daughter has been going threw a really hard time, her biological father came into her life after 6 1/2 years of not even being around, DHS came into my family's life last year my children ended up in foster care, for some mistakes that me and my husbamd made, but we are making them better now. My oldest daughter was sexually molested by my sister's husband, we took her straight to the center that deals with only children who have threw this kind of tragic situation. She shut down anf would not take about it. We have her in counsling and on medcine cause she is having a hard time dealing with everything in her life, she became very angery and always upset and very aggressive towards everyone. Then on top of everything my mother died and she was really closed to her. My chirlden have been threw so much, I have been very depressed and I am trying to control me. I dont know how to handle my daughter Nicole, she just seem's so lost and distant. Plus on top of everything eles, her biological father let her jump off a deep in diving boared and watch her sink to the bottom of the pool, he did not jump in a save her. she almost died. She is so afaired of him she dont want nothing to do with him. I dont want to lose my daughter to anything, and dont know how I should handle the situation and hand. She is crying out for help I dont know where to start. So if anyone have any questions please helpp me figure out where or how to help her. Thank you. I can,t imagine what you are going through. But I was sexually abused as a child by a very close family member and again what has helped me the most surrounding myself with healthy people. Even when I did not want want too. When I was a young teenager it was me against the world every one was out for something of their own( or so I thought) and I trusted no one. I went to counseling but I was not honest so that did not work so I ran of and got married two weeks after I turned 18. That did not work either. I would really suggest that you make sure that even though the truth hurts and that she may believe no one cares about her even though they say they do that you remind her every day every minute no matter what no matter where you will always love her that she is a worthy person. To open up and talk about the shame the pit of emptiness she feels about loosing a person so close to her. Keep her in counseling no matter how long it takes she needs to know you will never let go and that there is a future and a good future for her. Iwould say that maybe you should go to counceling too. A behavior therapist can be a great asset at these times to teach you how to deal with her. God be with you and your family. Missy. |
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