Replies to '12/28 Wifestyles'

Yandot, 

Do you actually believe that women want to end up in negative circumstances? They end up in them - to a great extent - with lack of planning. I'm not some "high powered person". I believe in women not being totally dependent on men financially as I see the consequences of those who do.  

Divorce occurs as a last resort to many. At a certain point, marriages do end. If I was on a high horse I wouldn't even care about the 2 out of 3 women who may end up in dire straits. I would be too busy doing something else and say "that's not my problem".  I know of many other women who have comfortable lives who wouldn't comment twice on the plight and causes of single mothers. They don't care as it doesn't concern them.  

But when I know there are millions of women who were thrown into disasterous situations, is it our responsibility to look at what causes this and to encourage more options. Some men are abusive and it is sometimes best for the wife to leave, after trying all recourse. Her life may depend on it.  

You come from the perspective of "let's hope this marriage doesn't end". I come from the perspective of "let's hope they don't end and if they do, let's do what we can to prepare these women and kids" . Awareness is a start.  

I have worked very hard, along with others, to encourage women to be realistic about their life choices.  We all promote a good marriages and family life, of course! but to disregard other aspects is foolish.   

The majority of women end up divorced - I didn't make that up and I am concerned.  

I am only commenting on the reality out there, I didn't create it, I don't promote it, I don't want kids to suffer due to both parents lack of thought and planning.   

Of course people will continue to marry and have kids. That's why it's so important to ensure women are not placed in vulnerable situations when the majority of these marriages end.  Not my stats.   

Yandot, 

Do you actually believe that women want to end up in negative circumstances? They end up in them - to a great extent - with lack of planning. I'm not some "high powered person". I believe in women not being totally dependent on men financially as I see the consequences of those who do.  

Divorce occurs as a last resort to many. At a certain point, marriages do end. If I was on a high horse I wouldn't even care about the 2 out of 3 women who may end up in dire straits. I would be too busy doing something else and say "that's not my problem".  I know of many other women who have comfortable lives who wouldn't comment twice on the plight and causes of single mothers. They don't care as it doesn't concern them.  

But when I know there are millions of women who were thrown into disasterous situations, is it our responsibility to look at what causes this and to encourage more options. Some men are abusive and it is sometimes best for the wife to leave, after trying all recourse. Her life may depend on it.  

You come from the perspective of "let's hope this marriage doesn't end". I come from the perspective of "let's hope they don't end and if they do, let's do what we can to prepare these women and kids" . Awareness is a start.  

I have worked very hard, along with others, to encourage women to be realistic about their life choices.  We all promote a good marriages and family life, of course! but to disregard other aspects is foolish.   

The majority of women end up divorced - I didn't make that up and I am concerned.  

I am only commenting on the reality out there, I didn't create it, I don't promote it, I don't want kids to suffer due to both parents lack of thought and planning.   

Of course people will continue to marry and have kids. That's why it's so important to ensure women are not placed in vulnerable situations when the majority of these marriages end.  Not my stats.