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Quote From: jaimie1974

It sounds like youve been a very supportive, caring husband and father. You are right- everybody has problems in some form or another. However, dont apologize for posting here, seeking advice/opinions, because that is what this space is for. You need and deserve a place where you can vent your thoughts/feelings/frustrations and receive some constructive words of advice.
You cant force a grown woman to get help for her issues, all you can do is try to gently encourage her to help herself. I cant imagine the personal pain that you suffer, the loneliness- because of your wifes situation. Does she seem to acknowledge or understand that you need her companionship? Or, does she go straight into defense mode?
Think about your children. They are blank slates that become written on by the role models in their lives- the main role models being mom and dad. What kind of role model do you want to be for them? Of course, you want them to see that their father is a kind, loving and loyal person, and you want them to exhibit those traits, too; but do you want them to continue to go without things- some of them being basic necessities in life- because mom wont even think about making changes?
Your wife has pain, there is no doubt. The way that she deals with her pain is what the problem is. You said that all she does is worry about her medications- what do you mean by that, exactly? Because if she has them- her Dr. writes her prescriptions, etc., then why does she worry about them? Is it because she wants more or something? Also, Im wondering if she has regular check ups with a pain specialist?
Have you considered therapy? It could be very helpful for you- because you need and deserve that soft place to fall. Take care of yourself, make YOU a priority- it is so important!