Quote From: sassy_sexyI think its difficult in any situation when its a custody battle. All the time couples get divorced and don't think about the CHILDREN'S feelings, and they SHOULD!
I've seen it so many times, children are upset when their parents divorce. Or even when their parents get married again. When my mom got married to my stepdad, I was happy but now I'm not. Cause I understand now.
Anyway, I've seen it with cousins, when parents get divorced and basically only have certain days they can see the kids, okay well what if the CHILD wants to see the parent? Are you just gonna deny it?
Or when the parent remarries, last month I went through it with a cousin who didn't want her mom to get remarried. She cried her eyes out at the wedding, and its because she doesn't want anybody to replace her father.
But do parents think about this? Noooooooo!
I think parents should think about childrens feelings before they do a major decision. Ask maybe what your child wants.
XOXO
Amber
You know, asking what the child wants is just not always an option...nor should it be!
My children were not happy when I divorced their alcoholic father...(they were a boy, 13, a girl 8 and a girl 4.) I did not bash their father to them so they really had no idea what all was going on, nor did they understand that my leaving him was for THEIR benefit. If I had asked them what they wanted, of course they would have chosen to stay BECAUSE they knew no better, and then when they grew up in this destructive atmosphere and would have been messed up adults, they would have been angry with me for that!
I told them this: "I am the adult and I will make the adult decisions based on what is good for ALL of us! I know what I'm doing, and some day you will understand." And guess what? They thank me for it today.
You cannot and should not put adult decisions on the backs of children....it's just too big a burden, and parents don't have the right to do that.
A parent needs to have the strength, courage and maturity to make those tough decisions, knowing it's the best thing to do for the good of all......you have to see the big picture.
