Replies to '05/26 The Dr. Phil House: Brat Camp, Part 2'

 Dr. Phil talked to the parents after the puppet show and the drawing experiment (without touching).  The parents received a long entailed parenting tip.  However, why didn't Dr. Phil come down on those kids especial Noah and Ethan for the horrible behavior???  Noah and Ethan needs at least one spanking a day and something they really like taken away...  Dr. Phil should have gone in and rewarded the children who obeyed the rules with some of the items ont he table.  He should have also realize that Noah has a bad anger problem.  He not only goes after his Mom but other children as well as documented by his suspension from school.  Hey Dr. Phil, I agree the parents need work, but sometimes they need more than just a good talking.  Oh, but wait this Noah will call Child Services.....it's not always the children telling the truth but they are always believed.   Dr. Phil, next week, lets see you take some action with the children and reward the ones who did as they were told at the drawing session...  Give Noah and Ethan a fake lolly and put them in a corner.  BTW:  I was spanked, I spanked my kids and they have turned out great....  Great job, great family.......     I understand your conception, but talking doesn NOT always work with some children.... 

You mean one good beating would put those kids in their place right?

 yes, the kids probably would not be like this if the parents had done a better job when they were first starting to test the waters. but parents are human, they make mistakes and sometimes get confused due to conflicting advice from different people and even different experts. now they have come to dr phil for help. for that i think they should be commended.i wish them and their kids the best.

has dr.phil bitten off more than he can chew? i doubt it.i'm sure his advice will have a positive effect on most of these families, if not all. doi think the result will be "perfect?" no. not just b/c no family is perfect but b/c "old habits die hard." even if they improve a lot, both the kids and the parents are liable to backslide. i don't beleive that any of these families are going to develop a whole new parent-child relationship. but no doubt things will get better.

but "one good whoopin?" if that would have solved everything you wouldn't hear about parents ever spanking more than once. i've even known of kidswho start to hit back after a while. discipline is necessary, but  physical punishment doesn't work with every child. nor is it the only or best form of discipline.

People say a whooping will do the job with kids. One big smack does not do anything for a child but make the child feel worse. Did you get a good spanking when you were little? Did it help you in anyway? How did it make you feel if you got hit all the time? Hitting does nothing for people. It brings on more anger and violence.

           Now, go ahead, whoop your child so  your child will not be a brat and will be a perfect little angel. It does not work that way because no  one is perfect, but no one should get whooped either. Kids can hit back, too. After a while, kids can't take it any more either even if they are brats or not. No wonder kids act the way they do. Look what the parent is doing to them. What are they showing them? The parents are showing things to kids to make them act that way. How sad, but true. One smack is not going to make it go away. Life goes on doesn't it?