Quote From: emjae41 One of the biggest problems I have with my husband is his medications, he won't take the anti depressant and he takes his other medication way to much. I have even tried talking to his Doctor about this, and that has done no good. As for me buying his meds. and then have him take them, you really do not understand my situation. I'm not on his checking account and since I do not work outside of the home I have no money unless he writes me a check and he only does that, when it's time for me to go grocery shopping. Then I have to show him the receipt.
As for church counseling, I don't think that would go over to good with my husband. He is one of those people that thinks he is always right, as Dr. Phill calls them " a right fighter" LOL he has even made the comment that he could shut Dr. Phill down. That one made me laugh. He is one of those people that always has advise for everyone else and he is VERY judgmental, but if someone tries to talk to him you can't get a word in. He constantly cuts you off and will not listen to the whole conversation. So that makes it really hard to talk to him about anything, that's why I usually end up caving in to him. Just to stop the argument, even if I don't agree I have found it easier to just let him rant and rave, while I sit there like a child being scolded.
There isn't much you can do if your husband refuses to take his meds...if he is taking one of his meds too much, that constitutes drug abuse...but until HE sees the problem for himself, you can't help him a whole lot. It is up to him...
In my own opinion (not an expert), "right fighters" have little confidence in themselves, and they over-compensate by forcing their opinions on others without really listening. And they tend to take every comment made by others as critisism. In order to prevent comments by others (that they don't want to hear), they dominate the conversation. It's easy to offer advice...harder to take it.
Be supportive, but don't put up with abuse. If your husband won't go to counseling, go by yourself. I've had lots of individual counseling, and it has helped me become more assertive, and has helped me learn to deal with life's situations. Maybe, eventually, you can talk your husband into going to some counseling with you...but until he wants to, you can't force him.
Becky
