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May 27, 2008, 10:11 pm PDT
05/27 The Dr. Phil House: Brat Camp, Part 3
Quote From: a23skidoThere are a few things that you should never say to parents who have lost a child ( I know because I have lost one):
I know how you feel.
They are in a better place.
They are dancing and playing and singing with Jesus.
Arrrgggggghhhhhhh
Although you may mean well, these statements do not make us feel better. Sometimes it is better to just say nothing and let us cry or be angry.
When a parent looses a child their world ( as they knew it) ends, horribly.
So please understand that some of us can't go to a happy place being told our children are dancing with Jesus. All we feel is the pain of them being ripped away.
Not trying to be a bitch, just being honest. And I am sure you meant well. Amen sister...
When a child dies it is near impossible for parents to beleive that a benevolent gods even exists,
Those wo tell you that you should nto grieve are only pulling a double guilt trip on you; You're wrong for felling bad and you're wrong for not believing (that you shouldn't feel bad).
That's not "Chritain kindness'. that's passive aggression.
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