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June 25, 2008, 1:05 pm PDT

I'm living with HPV & life can be good

Quote From: cierrabu1

My bf and I have been together for about 2 years.. when the unexpected occured... He got genital warts... He went to the health dept. and got tested... sure enough... it was what we thought it was... so i made a appt. with my gyno ASAP and got in sooner than later. Well, as the test would have it... I came out clean... but he wasn't satisfied with that at all... he wanted me to go and get more tests done to make sure that I didn't have HPV or genital warts... Well needless to say, the results haven't came back in the mail yet. My major concern is that he isn't as sexually active as we were in the beginning... I know that having a STD is a major thing for alot of people... I just never thought that it would happen to us. Now that it has, I am accepting of it and I am learning how to move on with it. It's not like it's the end of the world... He told me that he wanted some time to think about all of this and to figure things out. I told him that I could wait as long as it took for us to be intimate again. The truth is, I have a huge sex drive and he doesn't. He is more into his video games and watching CNN. We are both 22 years old and it's like we're 80. I would have thought that in my 20's I would be getting some quite often... however, 6 months ago...that's when things started to slow down... I am lucky to get anything at all... I know that I have gained some weight since we first started dating... but so has he... I told him that I feel un-attractive over and over again.. he just doesn't get it... So, that's all for now... Any one got any tips? I am lost and hurting...

Hi, I was so touched by your message that I wanted to let you know that there are some great resources for those of living with STDs.  My favorite new one is a book by Dr. Adina Nack called Damaged Goods? Women Living with Incurable STDs.  She talks about her own experiences with HPV and shares many women's stories.  It really helped me see how others had gone on to live good lives after getting a STD diagnosis...I hope it helps you, too.
 


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