Replies to 'Ready for Marriage?'

I think you need to ask your boyfriend what needs to change in his life or your relationship with him in order for it to be "perfect". If it is a reasonable goal then you both needs to work towards that in an allotted amount of time.  If his reasons are unreasonable then you need to express your feelings and work towards setting reasonable goals that can be obtained by the both of you.

I realize that you are in panic mode but if this is a good relationship don't ruin it by making ultimatiums that you can't keep or don't want to keep.  Instead find a mutual ground and set some goals and some timelines.   If you were 30 I think I may have answered your reply differently but at 23 years old you've got a whole lot of time on your side to weigh your options and feels him out for quite some time.

If you are adamant on getting engaged in 3 months and give him the ultimatium - put a ring on my finger or I'm leaving - are you willing to follow through with that threat or lose the man that you love?

I can't tell you what to do - only you can make this important decision but I really think you need to have a heart to heart discussion with him and explain your fears to him and what's going on inside your head.

Good luck