Quote From: a21697I too used to find heavy metal a great stress reliever. Metallica being my all time favorite. It was a way to express my anger with out acting out. The only bad thing about using it as your main crutch for stress or emotions is...it becomes a crutch. I am now 31 and am finding that I still do not always use good coping skills and that it is part of the reason why I still have to take antidepressants. It sux! I imagined myself at this age to have it all together.
I posted to this subject because I needed to post and did not know exactly where to reply. A little about me. I am a single mother of an 8 years old. Never married. I moved three years ago, 1800 miles away from my home town, to work with my company and I still don't have any social life. I have tried churches, community events, etc. I am at a lost. I cant hide in my apartment all the time, and I need to get out as much as my son does and socialize.
Any suggestions would be appreciated?!
Hi a21697!
Well there's 2 votes for heavy metal/rock to relieve stress, you and Seldingen, i.e. Metallica. My son's favorite is Nirvana. Me - contemporary instrumental - i.e. Bradley Joseph.
I myself can't honestly say that I can relate to your situation as I've been happily married to a wonderful guy for 21 years. Ups and downs - yes - that is always the case in any relationship, but we make it through each crisis some how.
But, I can say that I don't get out much either, other than kids games, etc., but its hard with work and family to have time for such things. And you are handling everything on your own, which would make it so much harder.
Your day will come though, when you least expect it, this I promise you. I know that's a pretty big statement to make, but the good Lord works in mysterious ways. I'd say keep going out to community events, etc., like you've been doing. If for nothing else but to get out and get your mind off things for a while. It does feel sooooo good to get out. Look in the paper for events going on that you can both go to. Go where the wind takes you and don't worry about it so much maybe, relax and enjoy life each day, and things will fall into place -- "when you least expect it".
Life is full of "MOMENTS" - happy little moments that come, and then gone in an instant. But those are the MOMENTS that remain in your memory forever. With music, I've learned to love and appreciate each MOMENT that I encounter - and embrace them forever.
p.s. I honestly think you do have it all together even though you don't think so. Look at you, raising and supporting your son independently - that's pretty together in my book. Stress? Yes. But keep trying to find ways to help you regroup and get through the days, like music......:)
Also, you're 1800 miles from home - I'm only 500 miles from home and miss my family very much. Any distance really would put a stress factor on you too. I've been gone for 17 years and its gotten easier, but not much it seems sometimes, especially when you move to a place where you don't know anyone. I'll make it back home some day.
