Quote From: eg1217I am new to this, but am looking for a place to get advice since this is an embarrassing subject. here is my story... Married almost 14 years, 2 kids. The outside world thinks we are a perfect family - lots of family time. When I met my husband he liked porn. No more than other guys I knew. I trusted (big word) and assumed he was done with it after we were married. Over the years he has slowly become verbally abusive. not bad, just joking remarks here and there. Over the past year we both lost our mothers. In november he told me he was going to a football game in Philadelphia tied into a business trip. Before his trip, I found porn cd's and some sex toys for men. I began to question his trip. He was very antsy but had an answer for everything. He went on his trip. I called the hotel where he was supposed to stay. He wasnt there. I found out he went to Atlantic City. He denied everything. I put everything out of my mind and tried to go on. The other day, I found more toys and he now has 19 cd's! Interactive cds. As I write this, he is on a business trip in AC. He packed his toys to take with him. I don't even know how to approach this with him. Advice? I am ready to ask him to leave, but it would devastate my kids.
He lied and continues to lie. When we discovered the toys you should have asked him who are they for? If he said him. then ask him why he is taking them on a business trip. But if you choose to question his actions, then when you find out the answer, choose to ignore it (which is what you are doing) you are going to continue to bang your head against a wall. If a person lies, and you confront them with this lie, and they admit to it, there is a chance of recover. But if a person lies, and you contront them with this and they deny it, the chance of healing and recovery will be zero because nothing has changed.
Do you think your kids would be proud of him if they discovered his toys? instead of you? Take the bull by the horns......he is walking all over you.
