Quote From: marcia52I was talking to B, my sister's hubby, and my mom kept jumping in and not allowing me to finish my sentence -- finally, without thinking I blurted out, will "mom, just shut up" and I completed my sentence. I can't believe how rude I was but she stopped.
It's a behavior that I hated to do .. but I was talking .. and she just hates it when I'm the center of attention. She has to prove me wrong, or something. Yet, at the same time, I hadn't been speaking for a few hours - I was reading a book and B and I were discussing stuff.
Remember a few years ago when she kept doing that when I was visiting relatives and her sister kept telling her to let me speak that I had something interesting to say. Yep, same lesson, different level again.
I know I hurt her feelings ... and I know that I'm just finally taking a stand that I should have taken when I was a teenager or young adult. Even my nieces are allowed to speak -- just not me.
Sometimes I feel, that I'm just working thru levels of growing up. That I simply have to do things and allow myself to do it -- that as I do, I finally break thru my barriers and I can become the person who has a good heart and can stand up for herself without "worrying" that I'm going to hurt someone's feelings. Does that make sense to you guys?
You may have been abupt, you may wish you had chosen less harsh wording such as "please let me finish", but you had every right to cut her off. (Didn't she cut you off in mid-sentence?)
Please, don't call yourself a brat for acting the way your mother acts. Name-calling is worse when we do it to ourselves.
Yes, you may have hurt her feelings, but she invalidates YOU every time she does it doesn't she? You are merely being assertive.
It may also help you to look at her actions in another way, she may not be trying to prove you wrong, this is your mind working in ways to produce negativity within you. It's possible that she butts in because she doesn't want to forget what she wants to say before you are done? You can say, "hold that thought and let me finish, then I will listen to you."
