Quote From: blgspc
My mother has no Self-Observing Ego- no other-orientedness, no inherent practice of self-observation- and she has no desire for any such thing. She HAS learned to sound good or at least sound better more like a sweet little old lady who is just defocused. Others have come to recognize that, though.
She really does little more than try to use the same old tired ploys to lure me back into her day to day dramas. Ive even told her, Youre wearing my 78 yr. old father out with your ceaseless spectacles, faux crisis scenes, and dramas. When hes gone bedside service will be a thing of the past.
However, after I made the Crap sandwich comment she has not been as persistent. In fact, for the first time after I confronted her, my father has been calm and has a stable BP! I don't really know what she did upon returning home that day. What I DO know is that she-for a while-avoided me!
YES!!!
Brenda
Dr Phil uses video on the show to get people to see themselves the way the rest of the world sees them.
Sometimes this one little tool is all it takes for a light bulb to go on.
Congratulations on getting your mother to back off.
Your descriptions of life with your mother sound like interacting with children. I wonder if your mother isn't "stuck" in some juvenile mind set that she has never grown out of? (Now that I ask that question, I get a "well DUH!" feeling...)
