Quote From: ritehereYour husband is trying to excuse his behavior by saying he never cheated while you were there. So what's his point? That he can't control himself for the length of time you are away? That he will get ill if he doesn't have sex with somebody on a regular basis? That it's not OK for you, or him, to spend any kind of time away from each other or he might "lose control" and cheat?
Please, this is not only an insult to you but to himself as well. You are dealing with a little boy and a weak one at that. Be the adult and let him know that you are not his parent, and that you expect him to act like a man, father, and husband.
Since I wrote my story over here I found out more about my husband. He finally admitted of sleeping with about 20 women in the past 9 years. I also found out that it was a lie when he said he only cheated while I was gone (visiting my family). Over the past 10 months since I found out he hasnt done anything like that. I know that for sure. He always calls me and tells me exactly what he is doing. He is trying very hard to make this marriage work. The only thing he doesnt want to do it talk about it. He doesnt want to hear about it anymore. I have to hide my feelings whenever I have one of those days and feel depressed and hopeless. He tells me that I need to get over it. That we have to start over and leave the past behind us. I went to counceling twice and the lady helped me out a lot. But it was just a short term counceling. We live overseas and its kind of hard to get counceling (I am scared it will hurt his military career). So I am trying to deal with it myself. It's just very hard sometimes because I can't talk to him about my feelings because we will start to fight. So I just suck it up. I just dont know how long I can do that. It is still in my head what he has done to me. I still have the pictures in my head him with the other women. I dont know what to do. I hope somebody over here can help me. I just feel so hopeless sometimes. I am so scared that I will be hurt like this again. I am very thankful for any response. And thank you so much for the responses I already received.
