Replies to 'Depression'

         I can so relate to the PMS thing! I use to beat my mattress with a plastic baseball bat! I so wish I had never done that! I'm paying for it now! Lumpy mattresses are not fun to sleep on! Seriously though, I wouldn't worry about how much stuff your friend has going on. She may welcome a chance to get her mind off her own problems.

        I know when I'm overwhelmed with the crap going on in my own life I welcome any kind of distraction! Your friend may welcome the chance to hear about your baggage! If you are like me you can probably see the answers for other peoples problems but when it comes to your own those blinders just wont come off! I think, if the truth be known, we are ALL like that! You are blessed to have friends willing to listen to you.One thing I have learned is to not expect others to have "the right words" for you. Talking about things is all about getting them out of you! Momma use to say there's more room out than in! Granted she wasn't talking about feelings but it works! Think about talking about thing with your friends as taking the garbage out! If  you keep them bottled up they're going to get all greasy,slimy and smelly, just like the garbage in my trash can! If you talk about them and bring them out into the open and let the fresh air have them then there is much less of a stench! Oh, by the way the part about my trash can was just for humor! 

         

You have a handle on where you learned pressure release via angry outbursts from your dad. Yet, you've seen didn't work for him because hurt you and you aren't your dad... you are you. Nonetheless, have that tendency to consider from seeing your dad in action.

There is such a thing as scream therapy and other positive ways of releasing the pressure of stress. Walks. Some go into closet so neighbors don't dial 911 if think you are in distress instead of releasing distress. Others go t sporting events where yelling is normal or turn on a sporting event on TV.

There use to be a therapy where couples used foam bats to express aggravation with one another. Not sure if still used and not sure if a good idea. Heard about YEARS ago and not much since. I knew a man prone to violence and softball was a release for him. Tennis is good. Dr. Phil refers to tennis as almost therapeutic and a must do on his schedule.

Some tennis courts have a backboard that you can just hit a tennis ball up against and Parks and Recreation Centers have lots of activities. Well, you bowl don't you. I "think" it was you who listed on your profile you bowl. I think our member Corrine bowls too... or has or use to and may still now.

What is your bowling score? Are you on a league? I use to love to bowl the few times I have. Being on a bowling league is fun. That's a good release... throwing bowling ball. Imagine you are throwing all your problems and stress away with each toss.

To me, it sounds like you've got a handle on it and are taking personal inventory and VERY proactive. Sorry you missed your doctor today. That's happened to me before when I forgot a doctor I saw left at noon on Fridays. Thank God for tomorrows, right?

However, if you feel you need help there's 911 and you can go to Crystal Cathedral New Home and click on link to talk to a live counselor FREE online. Religion isn't topic or paramount to call and was created in 1965, I think, when a member there attempted suicide. Dr. Phil "and" Robin both have spoken at Crystal Cathedral. Just a suggestion. That's life... like economics: choice. I wish us all the best choices managing our lives like top not CEO's on the ball rolling with the punches but not throwing them.

Hugs and prayers and thanks for the reply. SEA