Quote From: ritehereFunny you should pick up on the potential for a previous trigger, and there is one.
I'm very sensitive to my husband taking an authoritarian or parental role with me. When we first met, I was newly divorced from a disastrous marriage and had an infant son. In short, I wasn't all there. My husband has a strong desire to be needed, and since I was SO needy at the time, we meshed. Unfortunately, what he was getting was NOT the real me, and when I began to heal, he began to try to keep me in that role. We had many marrital issues along the way to discovering the real us and how we wanted to define our relationship.
So, to this day whenever I get a hint that he is ordering me around in some way, I get this reaction. In this case, it was a simple comment by him with absolutely no authoritarian overtones, I just took it wrong.
I have to emphasize what I was highlighting with that post though.
What I wanted to point out to others was the weird physical reaction I had just before all the negative thoughts started up and my mood changed.
For the first time I recognized that this happens everytime my mind is about to start up "tapes." I was wondering if anybody else has something like this happen to them? I find it valuable to know so that in the future I can examine my thoughts and reactions even faster. I'm working toward the day when I will be completely spontaneous and not miss a beat. Able to give and take with people and not worry about if I misinterpreted them, or how I appeared to them- all those things that used to cause me agony afterwards.
