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October 3, 2008, 2:02 pm PDT
Some advice
Quote From: kalamatai31I have a twelve year old son who likes to draw, write and likes to be alone a lot. Just like his mom did. I was raised in an abusive home though. And his father abused him. So Im not sure why if that's the reason he could be depressed. Just let him know that your there for him and you love him and when he's ready to talk he will. My son confuses me a lot of the time. I too was abused by my father at a very young age until I was 17 years old. I was a quiet distant child who also liked to be alone, but no one knew about the abuse until I was about 23 and thanks to my ex husband that is who decided to tell my mom and 4 other siblings in a fit of rage. I kept it bottled up inside and felt ashamed because it was my father who did it, I could not understand why he would do that or why he chose me to do it to. I was on meds for depression until I met my now husband who I was able to talk to about it, he did not ever know what to say, and let me know ahead of time that it freaked him out and that he did not know what to say but if I needed to talk to feel better that I could. and I did. and he helped me tremendously to put it behind me and to move on with my life. I have quit taking the meds. and I do not have the nightmares or depression or constant reminders of the incidents daily like I did before I was able to finally talk to someone that I could trust. What I am trying to say is....tell your son that he can talk to you about what has happened and let him confide in you if he can. do not judge him or make him in any way think that it was his fault or something he did. If he does not want to talk about it, then do no push him to, it will only make him want to separate himself from you. If he seems to be getting more distant see about a doctor to insure that he is not suicidal. Because I was that also, due to the fact. If I can be of any more help. please contact me further at my email address on my profile
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