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July 15, 2008, 9:15 pm PDT
So Far So Good
Quote From: ranchreaderwow! You are in a really tough situation. I'm sorry. The good news is you have a strong marriage, for which you should be quite proud. The fact that you and your husband have such an open level of communication and trust speaks very well of you. Try focusing on that. There is no doubt, from what you have written, that Betty needs to be out of your lives, at least for awhile. The awkwardness with your husbands working together certainly makes that a challenge. She has completely broken the bounds of trust, which was her choice not yours. Do not feel guilty for what she has done. Remember, just because your husband knew these people first, does not mean he should be more loyal to them than you. Marriage is a much higher priority relationship than friendship (at least it should be). If you are unable to physically extricate yourself from this relationship, then you can still do it emotionally. You know you cannot trust this woman, so keep her at arm's length. Part of the problem is that your husband is really the one who needs to take care of this, not you. These are his friends and he is the one being hit on. The best you can do is be a supportive, loving wife, keep distance from Betty and try to take the high road. (Not easy, I know!!) I will be praying for you. Betty continued for a while. When Burt stopped responding to messages from her phone number she started sending messages from her husband Tom's phone and ended each message with her initials. When we figured it out, Burt took one of the messages to her husband at work and asked him what the letters meant at the end, he was baffled, of course, because he had not sent the message. Tom went home and asked Betty if she had sent Burt a message from his phone and she denied it, saying that one of the children must have been playing with the phone. We have not heard anything from her since. The damages remained low in the end and that was my desire. The only casualty really was the friendship between Burt and Tom, as they only "hang out" at work now. I just hope that it is all over now. This should make the company Christmas parties interesting though. ha ha Thank you so much for your words of encouragement, advice and prayers.
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