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Quote From: tkalanchey

I feel as though everything that has transpired over the last 5 months has truly happened for a reason. The time and energy put forth to useless mental and emotional relationships has taken its toll, but has also allowed me to accept some things about myself.

Over the years I have compromised my morals and values for another. Tolerating intolerable situations and behaviors for my concept of love. What I have come to realize is that real love never asks you to compromise what you believe in and the people that perpetrate against these beliefs are not deserving of the love you have to offer.

I have been watching, before my very eyes, the death of a tainted relationship. And just like someone dying of an illness, as much as I didnt want to accept the death of this relationship there is no alternative as it was happening in spite of my attempts (this is what pop psychology calls bargaining).

I have gone through the stages of grief: anger, depression, bargaining, and finally acceptance.

The metaphorical physical death has occurred and because of the past months of grieving what my heart new was going to happen, I find a strange peace within (this would be the acceptance part). A voice telling me that it is ok to let go, that everything will be alright.

I believe today with every fiber of my being that God has something special planned for me. He has all along! Like a loving parent, he had to let me figure it out. There have been signsreminders along the way. Opportunities to do something different but like a child I wouldnt heed the advice of my father, I needed to learn it on my own.

When I look at my son, I know he will be a good man, a loving man. God knows this of me! I am a good woman, a loving woman and he no longer wants me to settle for less than what I deserve.

So closes this chapter of my life, and although I am a little scared, I am excited as well.