Replies to '03/08 Stalking the Stars'

I read your post & got thinking...  What the heck is the matter with people???  I know many people who are inspired by celebrities & who envy them but to WANT TO BE THEM!!!  I'm sorry but C'mon. 

They have the looks, they have the money, they have all the glam & glory but have you ever noticed the one thing they haven't got that we common people can have with just a little work???  True happiness!!! 

Seriously.  They put on the happy act for the cameras because they have to.  Otherwise it's broadcast all over the globe that their lives aren't so perfect.  Some of them capitalize on that these days, just like some capitalize on having kids, some on being just plain stupid...  Yeah there might be a little talent still out there but the whole industry is more nonsense than talent.  Splitting & getting back together, cheating, broadcasting their private lives...  Gimme a break!!!  Anything to keep their faces in the mags & on the news. 

Those people aren't truly happy.  That's why they keep losing weight that isn't even there.  That's why they drink & do drugs.  That's why it's a big deal when something bad happens in their life.  They make millions off their "supposed" problems. 

It might just be me but I'd be absolutely embarassedif the world knew my problems the way we know theirs.  If they think it's ok to turn these things into a worldwide share & make money off it then go for it.   

The thing is...  We're not them.  No matter how sick we make ourselves, no matter how hard we try...  They've already been established for whatever reason they're so famous.  The world doesn't need anymore Jessica Simpson's or Britney Spears' or Jennifer Anistons etc. etc. etc. 

Why not just be happy with who you are???  You can be who you want in life without having to nearly kill yourself over trying to be someone you can never be.   

Take care of YOU girl!!!  Get help, get well & be happy with who you are!!! 

When I was 14-15 years old I became anorexic and even 5 years down the road I still have traces of the disease in my head. 

Right now you can pull yourself out of a VERY scary situation.  Listen, I am not going to tell you what my lowest weight was but I will tell you that in the end, my hair was falling out... in chunks.   

I was put in the hospital and monitored for 48 hours and later had to go to a psychiatric hospital for a week. 

My dad sued my mom for custody, and won, claiming that she caused my illness.  The law suit itself cost my parent close to 50,000 dollars. 

I became completely withdrawn. 

This disease put my life on hold.  Please listen when i say that you don't have to do this.  You are obviously a very smart woman to realize that you do need to get treatment soon.  If you continue you will get sucked into something that you can not get out of easily if at all. 

My aunt died of bulimia-anorexcia when she was 44.  She left behind a 7 year old son, who never knew his mother because she was too obsessed with her eating to come to love her own son. 

Please for your own sake, go to a doctor that is covered by your insurance and get refered to a therapist that can help you.  Because once you are clinically diagnosed with an eating disorder, many therapists will not want to see you and insurance will fight to not cover your therapy because it is not considered an 'illness'.  

Antidepressants helped me tremendously.  And no I did not gain any weight because of the drugs, I promise. 

Try to see past this.   

This is the only body we are given in this world. 

Love yourself.  You have an amazing mind, don't waste it on counting calories. 

Carla, 

Every now and then I look in my mirror and think, gee, I have to get rid of that gut. So I cut back on my intake the next couple of days and limit my sugar and eventually, I'm back to my fightin' weight. Then a few weeks later I do it all again. However, when I do this it's not to look like anyone else, it's because the gut's just not healthy. 

I know God loves me the way He made me and wants me to take care of the body he gave me, along with everything he gave me. He wants me to have a real relationship with Him, knowing He loves me despite my appearance. He told Samuel, "People look at appearance, but I look at the heart." 

It sounds like your heart is hurt. The enemy wants us to envy others and focus on ways we don't measure up to keep us from loving. Jesus said the two most important things are to love God and love each other. By focusing on how you don't measure up to Nicole, or anyone else, you're putting yourself on a throne and leaving God and others out. 

Give it back to the enemy by getting out there, looking for the good in others; doing things to serve tthem; and becoming a beatiful woman on the inside. Then see the great things that grow and blossom. 

I am 20 years old and went to a private all girl school in middle and high school. Many of these girls were very high achievers. Many of these girls were very isolated and coddled from the world. Many of them had "eating disorders". 

I find it interesting how eating disorders are something that have only really been in existence for the past 30 years.Most of these girls are like you and don't really have any "real world" experience. I also find it interesting how statistically speaking it tends to effect middle, upper-middle, and upper class caucasian girls from the suburbs in North America and Western Europe. Almost no one in Eastern Europe, Asia, Africa, and South America has these so called "disorders."  

You sound like you are almost proud of your eating disorder. You brag about your scrapbook and you refer to celebrities. I personally find it disappointing that all of the years and struggle that went to women's liberation has ended up with well off girls obsessing about their bodies. Just think about your true motivations for doing these things and not the usual cliches of "I want to be perfect."Do you think some rural peasant Chinesse farmer woman is going to be counting calories? Or even a migrant farmer girl here in this country? Do you think that guys, or anyone else for that matter, wants you to be or cares if you are 85 pounds? Or are you doing this for attention and to give you something to talk about on the so called "pro ana" sites out there with your girlfriends? 

I don't mean to necessarily sound harsh or cold, I just feel like maybe had the girls who have these disorders would have been treated more harshly by their parents and society, making themselves puke or starving themselves would be the last thing on their mind. 

You are not alone. Although my eating disorder didn't originally stem from wanting the look like a celebrity, I definately feel that my obsession with the way certain stars look fuels it. I've been struggling with anorexia since I was about 10 years old. I'm now 16 years old and 5'7". At this height I've gotten down to 110 pounds. I look to Keira Knightley as "thinspiration". I think she is absolutely gorgeous. I watch all of her movies. I have a scrapbook with a bunch of pictures of her I've collected off the internet and in magazines. I dress like her and try to wear my hair and make-up the same way. We're the same height and it has been said that Keira Knightley weighs 115 pounds, but I dont' believe that. Even at 110 pounds, I still felt huge compared to her. I don't know how many people are aware of this, but there is a whole underground movement of girls on xanga.com who have eating disorders. I think that most people on this site who actually have an eating disorder (some people just pretend like they do...which is pretty screwed up) have the same feelings towards certain stars as I do. It's definately a problem, most are aware of this, but I don' think anything is going to change anytime soon. 

Please I strongly urge you to seek help as soon as possible.   I have a son who is 20 years old, and they say it does not happen to boys but it did.  A coach in highschool told him to lose and he went to the extreme, and was in college and could not control is eating disorder.  He is 5'7" and his lowest weight was 98 pounds and all his organs were shutting down.  He has been in and out of the hospital and in alot of pain mentally and physically.   He has finally chosen to go to a treatment center and called me today  from there saying thanks mom....and I love you 

. Sooo please dont hesitate, this disease is deadly.. My son too gave himself punishments and describes alot of what you are going through,   I pray yiou will turn for help soon.