Replies to 'Cheated On'

Let me first start off by saying that your sobriety and your meetings have to be your first priority.  That program is your lifeline as well as the support you receive there.  You are only 1 drink away and 1 roll away from ending back to square one all over again and losing everything you have accomplished in your recovery.  Don't ever let anybody take that away from you or keep you from a program that is so detramental to your existance.  (Congratulations by the way!)  If your husband has any objections to you going, he can always join you - but either way you go with or without him.

I'm sure you have been staying in this marriage for many reasons but you can't make him love you nor can you fix this on your own.   I'm sure he is still angry and hurt and wants to continue to punish you for the rest of your life for your past mistakes but there has to be a point in time where he has to either decide to end this marriage or actually try to forgive you.  Yes, you committed a "crime" but are you willing to sacrafice your happiness for the rest of your life paying for this mistake? 

Either way you are a survivor.  Look at what you have been through and look at what you have accomplished.  This may be the end of your marriage but it is certainly not the end of your dreams.  Your future has unlimited possibilities, you've come too far to give up.