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October 21, 2005, 7:42 am PDT
Moms and Money Conflicts
Quote From: adawifeMoney is such a huge problem in families today. When are people going to see that money is not what makes you happy, nor will having everything. We as Americans have to learn to live on a budget. If you can't afford a $30,000 car, DON'T BUY ONE!!!! As for couples who argue over who makes the most money and who pays for what. Did everyone forget what marriage is about. COMPROMISE! So what if one person makes more than the other. Husbands and wives are suppose to share. That is why in a divorce everything is divided between the two. My husband and I decided before we got married that I was not going to work so now he works and brings home the money. I take care of our child and keep the house up. He has never said, "I have to take care of you or I pay for everything." He sees that as his job as the bread winner in our family. In a marriage you have to give a little before you take. You can't let money become the focus of your marriage. You have make sure that your love for each other is the first and most important thing. I know that things get hard and when your broke you get stressed out. I know how it feels. We live on a military salary. (For those of you who don't know, it isn't much!) But you have to learn to control that and live at your means. BUDGET, BUDGET, BUDGET!!!!! I totally agree with you on this..and I could not have said it better myself....glad to know someone out there thinks like I do. We budget and do pretty well. We don't own our home, we don't have brand new vehicles, we don't go on vacations, we don't shop at high dollar places for name brand clothing and shoes, we do our best with what we have and our kids get the things they need not what they "want". Wanting and needing are two different things. If I wanted a $30,000 car then I wouldn't get it cause I don't "need" it being on a tight budget. People have their priorities (sp?) mixed up I think. I see many kids these days to with high price things and newer cars than we could afford. I also think that these parents with high price homes, cars, clothes, and whatever else it is they buy and do...that they are setting a bad example to their kids. Their kids will grow up expecting all that no matter where they are in life. Moms I think know marriage is 50/50...but men sometimes tend to forget that....mainly if they are the only one that works in the home. I like you also stay home and my husband works. We get our bills paid on time, our vehicles are paid for, our kids have what they need, and I stay home to keep the house up and tend to my kids on the weekends when not in school. We get in tight corners every now and then, but nothing to sit there and say "I want a divorce", cause marriage isn't suppose to be based on money....only on love, caring, sharing, faithfulness, and compromise. PEOPLE GET A GRIP AND WORK THINGS OUT BEFORE THEY GET OUT OF HAND!! MONEY WILL NOT LOVE YOU LIKE YOUR SPOUSE DOES AT NIGHT!! DON'T LET MONEY RUIN YOUR MARRIAGE!!
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