Replies to 'Too Much Discipline?'

but you get to go on the computer!!! :-)
I'm guessing your mom works outside the home huh?
I know there's 2 sides to every story but that does seem like too much responsibility for a 16 yr old.
Do you have a job? Saving for a car?
Could you ask your mom if you could have a friend come over and help you cook and clean? This way you both get a little bit of what each of you want

Well, let me try to explain things a little more clearly in ways that might help you to better understand what your parents are trying and not trying to achieve with their rules that you feel are confining!!!

 

1. Never been to a sleep over: Could be a little over protective of you, but at your current age that also slides into the what could she be doing or get talked into doing when we aren't around. So just keep her home.

 

2. Can not date until college or graduate of college: Honestly honey this is really in your best interests !!! I say this with motherly love because I was a teen mother and I think your parents are just making sure that you stay focused on what is important in your life at this age, and making sure that you have all the choices in the world you can imagine with out any chance of anything coming in the way of your future, be it a boy that you like, a baby too soon, sex too soon, std's...... I am sure you are getting the hint by now.

 

3.As far as dinner being cooked and cleaning the house this is a two fold lesson and helping hand: They are teaching you adult responsibilities , how to do these things so that you can care for yourself as an adult, and it sounds like they must both work, so in turn you are helping them out for all that they do for you. You should take pride that they are trusting you with such adult responsibilities, and feel good that you can help make their day a little easier, look at it as a nice way to repay them for all they have done for you and will do for you later. ( Y ou will appreciate this when you are in college and you know how to cook and you can find what you need because you know how to be neat and organized). This also  prepares you for  marriage and what you will need to know how to do as a wife and mother someday. (not fun to learn on the fly)

 

4 As for texting , I have a 15 year old and he doesn't have a phone , no texting, no dating, and his chores are cleaning the kitchen, doing the laundry for him and his brothers, and yes even cooking on occassion(which he does most nights because I work nights, and he loves that he knows how to cook, and so do his friends), and he also babysits for his 3 younger brothers all summer and after school while his dad and I work. : So as for the no texting thing, good for your parents, your time should be spent doing things that matter and not talking in a chopped up version of the english language . Play sports, join a local youth group or volunteer. Not to mention that most teens do things to excess,you don't understand that there are limits for use of things like cell phones and texting, and not to mention they probably don't want the bill !!!

 

5. Not sure what you mean here? Did you mean you have never , ever been to someone elses' house?

If so , yeah you may have something here, but again that falls into the over protective parents catagory. Or the out of sight out of mind, fearing your choices.

 

All things considered, the bottom line is that your parents have not been brain washed into the spoil your brat to excess state of mind , and letting the teenager decide what they are doing and where they are going, and talk to and treat their parents like dirt. Sounds like your parents have it spot on , but may be just a bit strong in some areas, but you are their child and they are responsible for your life. And that 's alot so take it easy on them they really are doing it with love and good intentions!!!!