Replies to 'Reigniting Romance in Your Relationship'

Dear Dr. Phil and Friends:

I have been in a "going nowhere" marriage for about 6 years now. All together we have been together for alomst 8 years. My wife has a good heart, cares about me, and loves me. Frankly, I am worried about her health and weight issues. So much so, my eyes have began to dance around at other women out there. Not only do I look at those women, I also want to touch them.

My wife is terribly overweight and could look so much better. She has asked for my support which I would cheerfully give. I have told her I would go on any diet she wants for as long as it takes (as long as it takes). She eats twice and sometimes more than that than I do. She has swelling ankles, a weak heart, thin blood, and other issues. I have tried tact and deplomacy with her. Nothing seems to work.

I am at the end of my ropes and inspiration to continue down this same redundant road with her. All I want is for her to out live me (we are 13 years apart in age). Yes, I absolutely have selfish reasons for wanting her to be thinner. Yes, I want her to be as sexy as she can possibly be. Yes to all of those vain issues that men have when it comes to their women. Nonetheless, I know that if she doesn't do something dramatic about her health and weight, she will end up dying first and lose out on seeing her grandchildren even being born.

Honestly, if something doesn't happen and I don't see her taking her health and weight seriosly, I might end up straying from the marriage. Please understand, I have never ever even sometimes maybe cheated on an relationship in my entire life. So, this would be a first for me. Please give me some clear and decisive advice before I end up doing something very stupid and compromise the marriage I have with her.

Sincerely,

Spirit