Replies to 'Ready for Marriage?'

Quote From: jaimie1974

I have a few questions for you: If he was divorced, would he marry you tomorrow? Is this something that the two of you have talked about? If money was not a concern and if his wifes issues were not a concern, would he file for a divorce today?
Your boyfriend should be focusing on what is right and best for his children. He is the strongest male role model that they will ever have; right now, he is modeling for them that it is normal to have a wife as well as a girlfriend who you have children with. Instead, he should be doing the right thing, and that is to get a divorce! Whether he is going to get married again or not, he should get a divorce. He should go to the court house, file divorce papers- in the areas that pertain to the visitation/custody of the children, he should write the visitation schedule that they share now, and then pay the fee and file. It is really that simple! If she (the wife) does not want a divorce; that is too bad! I think that your boyfriend will discover that his wife is just as afraid of what he might want in the process of a divorce as he is scared of what she might demand. They share similar fears, but the best way to overcome those fears is to face them. For the integrity of his family, it is the right thing to do. If he stalls, continuing to put off filing for a divorce, I urge you to ask him what his long-term plan is for your life together. Does he want to just continue to live together, raising your children together, while he remains married to his wife? That would be disrespectful to you and your precious children. You deserve more. I wish you the best!