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First a litle background.  I am currently 48, my off again/on again  girlfriend 40.  We've dated off and on for 6 years.  Usually we end up breaking up because she has a bad temper and things get out of control, and I can't take it anymore. When the temper isn't there she's great, and obviously the physical part ifs usually pretty good. Since our last breakup she has informed me she is pregnant.  Several days later she announced we should get married, and she wants to move in.  She has no health care insurance and want's to be on mine.  Given our history I'm not sure which way to go here. I have no problem helping with her healthcare costs for the child out of pocket.  I question whether our child would be better off with us as separate or together given our history of fighting and breaking up. I think it would be a matter of time before we ended up apart.  I think both of us want the kid though, although she tends to be very negtive when things don't go her way. I would like to know from anyone here with experience, particularly someone who lived through something like this which is better for the kid.  Parents who are together for the kid even though problems remain in the relationship, or parents who remain separate and share custody. I don't like either alternative, but choices are limited here. Any other tips on how to handle this are appreciated.  Neither of us have ever had kids.  She is hispanic and has her extended family locally and I have no family in the area.

First a litle background.  I am currently 48, my off again/on again  girlfriend 40.  We've dated off and on for 6 years.  Usually we end up breaking up because she has a bad temper and things get out of control, and I can't take it anymore. When the temper isn't there she's great, and obviously the physical part ifs usually pretty good. Since our last breakup she has informed me she is pregnant.  Several days later she announced we should get married, and she wants to move in.  She has no health care insurance and want's to be on mine.  Given our history I'm not sure which way to go here. I have no problem helping with her healthcare costs for the child out of pocket.  I question whether our child would be better off with us as separate or together given our history of fighting and breaking up. I think it would be a matter of time before we ended up apart.  I think both of us want the kid though, although she tends to be very negtive when things don't go her way. I would like to know from anyone here with experience, particularly someone who lived through something like this which is better for the kid.  Parents who are together for the kid even though problems remain in the relationship, or parents who remain separate and share custody. I don't like either alternative, but choices are limited here. Any other tips on how to handle this are appreciated.  Neither of us have ever had kids.  She is hispanic and has her extended family locally and I have no family in the area.