Quote From: mls2005I am very disturbed by your thinking in this situation. What right do you have as the other woman to stick your nose where it doesn't belong. First and foremost this marriage and the things that go on in it are none of your business. This is not a competition. This is a real life situation where the children will wind up a heavy price for your selfishness. Why would you even want to be with a man who lies, cheats and manipulated to be with you. If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you! His wife and children are pulling him back for good reason. You make the wife out to sound selifish, but all you know is what he's told you and that may not necessarily be the truth. She may not have been the perfect wife, but I can assure you he was probably not the perfect husband either and that may have had a big influence on her negative feelings about him and the marriage. There again, it is not your call, you really don't know what went on in their marriage, all you know is what he told you and that may just be a big crock of lies! Most men will do whatever, whenever and however to "get some" and is that the position you really want to be in?? How can you even begin to build a relationship that was started under lies and cheating?
First of all, I did not put my nose where it didn't belong. He put his nose where he shouldn't have been. This is not my problem. I was led to believe that his marriage was over and he was half way out the door. I do not feel badly for this woman. If half of what he told me is true then she's lucky she kept any man for as long as she did. I honestly do not feel sorry for her. I hate her, truly. She is the reason I am not with him. She is using her children to keep a man that she knows does not want to be with her. She has threatened that she will tell the kids all the affair details if he doesn't stay with her. How pathetic is that?
I also don't buy into the mentality that once a cheater, always a cheater. I think that people make mistakes and sometimes marry the wrong person. I am confident that I would last with him. I do not think he would cheat on me. The problem with his marriage is that she wouldn't stop shopping long enough to give him any attention. She gets what she deserves. If there was a way I could break them up quicker, I would. His marriage is doomed. There is no way this woman is getting over his affair with me. She is already busting his chops at every turn. This will not improve.
