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July 30, 2005, 3:42 pm PDT
 Quote From: momocto Rebecca, you are very eloquent. Don't ever apologize for writing all of your feelings. There's nothing wrong with a long post. The thing that struck a chord with me in your post was the thoughts of being disgusting. This has been on my mind quite a bit lately. I didn't see the recent dr. phil show on sex, but one of the quotes really resonated with me. You know, having eleven children doesn't mean I love sex. I don't. I rarely enjoy it. My husband has obviously demonstrated to me that his feelings for me have not changed. He is in love with me and desires me just as strongly as he did when we were first married. I'm very grateful for his attitude and his love. But I wish I could feel the same way. I'm embarrassed and feel the "disgusting" label every minute of my life. It is easy to feel this way because of the looks I get if I wear shorts or even if I don't. People are disgusted by me and I am by myself. And even though my husband isn't, I can't get past it.
Beverley, lovely to see you here and counting the days to when you'll be a regular fixture again.
Cindy, I have still stayed off the scale, but must confess to measuring the other day. Personally, I don't think staying off has done any good. I need the daily reinforcement. I like the daily reinforcement. Also, it gives me clues, like if I eat salty food, I immediately gain water weight, so it helps me know what will not help me! I'm afraid I'm just going to go back to weighing. There is value in it and I don't see any negatives.
About your job, I'm sorry you weren't able to get the position, but it doesn't make you any less of a quality person. I think you're great and I'm sure your patients love you. Would that I could be one!
Love, Millie Oh I wish that you lived closer too, so that you could be a patient or at least your kids anyway! I would love to spend the day with all of you!
I can't really talk about the "sex thing" because I gave that up a few years ago since I'm not in a relationship. But my question would be to you, is that not negative self-talk to call yourself disgusting. That is just not a word that I would ever say to myself without stopping and giving me a talking to!
Before I started on this program, I probably didn't spend alot of time in front of the mirror. Now I will look at myself and don't particularly like what I see but I see so much more than I did. I do see that my thighs have even more loose skin and things seem to be hanging more south than they were before. But I see me, I see someone that because of good friends and lots of hard work is making a difference in her health. I also see a happier person.
When I go out in public, there is not a person there who is seeing my lose skin and I don't think that anyone looks at me or did look at me and think disgusting. I think people looked at me and thought I was overweight and they were and are right, I am. I also think that I did and still do project a lot of thoughts on people that they are not thinking.........I did that with the swimming aerobics, remember! And not one person ran out of the pool screaming!
So I have to agree with your husband, not a word that I would use to describe you. How can we help you not use that negative self talk?
I agree with you about the scales. It really is a motivator for me! So it just goes to show what works for one person may not work for someone else and that is what is so good about this program we have to tailor it to fit our needs. I know I can't eat any flour and lose weight.......others can eat sugar and flour and lose! We just have to keep working at it! |
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